Post # 1
Okay girls so now that I’ve found my venue and we’re going to sign a contract this weekend… I need to really crunch the budget to figure out how much this will cost me. Our venue isn’t very inclusive in that there are separate charges for everything. Here are the things we’ll be paying separately for:
Venue fee (1500)
Ceremony fee (300)
China (based on per person count)
Bev package (includes all glassware and non-alcoholic drinks, we bring our own alcohol in to be served by their staff)
food (per person)
facility fee (= 15% of bev/food… although this isn’t a service charge they say it is part of their lease that goes to the owner of the building. They are discounting this down to 9% for me bc we’re off-season).
They make a point of saying on their contract that gratuity is not included. So… how much do we tip? What % and on what? And do we just figure out a lump sum and let them split it up? Or do we tip each person individually? or each group of people? (wait staff, set up people, bartender, coordinator?)
I just wish everything was included so we wouldn’t have to make these decisions! lol
Post # 3
Wait until after the wedding is over and you have seen everything in action before you decide how much of a tip each vendor has earned.
A gratituity is a tip that is mandatory. Every other tip is optional at your discretion based on the quality of service you received and should not be given until after the wedding is over. You don’t need to tip on top of the gratituity unless they went miles above and beyond for you.
Post # 4
I think I maybe misstated… the contract states that gratuity is not part of the contract… thus we have no “service fee” or forced/automatic tip.
If we tip after the wedding do we do it the day of? Or can we mail an envelope a week or two later?
Post # 5
Anytime after the wedding is fine (as in the wedding day itself has passed). You may be too busy the day after and you will be too busy with being pulled a thousand directions on the day of but you can certainly send it a couple weeks or so after with any thank you notes that you send them (assuming that you will be on your honeymoon during that time so just figure them out when you get back and mail them then).
Post # 6
Oh wow – I just re-read our contract and luckily it spells out “no tipping” (well, not in those words, but pretty much). I feel so blessed right now.
Post # 7
you’re so lucky there’s no set % on gratuity
my venue explicity includes 22% gratuity on the contract. being out in San Fran where sales taxes on food is 9.25%, my wedding cost just increased 33% thanks to grauity and tax!