Post # 1
I’m having a full Catholic mass for our ceremony. We are paying $1100 as a non-member fee (its the Cathedral in our dioceses, so we are allowed to go there, but we have to pay a little more). This includes the music, programs, and marriage preparation fees.
I know you are supposed to ‘tip’ the priest on top of that for his time. We were thinking like $100 since it is the cathedral and they have been very nice in working with us so far.
What are your thoughts? What have you tipped, or what would you think is reasonable?
Post # 3
If it is a priest then yes $100 should be ok, that is what we are doing. However since this is the cathedral if you have a bishop or senior priest I think out of respect it should be a bit more. Talk to the Cathedral they probably can let you know the norm there
Post # 4
Were were married in a Catholic church as non-members of that particular church. The Priest gave ideas as how much to “donate” (they did not charge any fees) for each portion. We ended up donating $300 for the church (which was in the middle of his suggestion). We ended up giving the Priest he arranged for us $200. Our Priest told us $100 is pretty standard for Catholic Priests (in our area) who are performing a ceremony, but because this Priest was coming from out of town, doing the rehearsal the night before, staying over night, and then the performing the ceremony the next day, he thought $200 would be a bit more accurate for his time.
Considering the Cathedral price, do you think the Priests normally get a little more? Is your Priest local? I would say anything between $100-$200 is more than generous.
Post # 5
I’m planning on giving the priest a tip/gift of around $175-$200. The church is costing us $750, and the organist/cantor is another $300 pp (eep!). I think something around 15- 20% seems fair…
Post # 6
@PeachSnapple: Our cantor is around $300 also, do you plan on tipping them also? I wouldn’t even know where to find them after to give them the tip!
@MadTownGirl: The priest is local, and he is the main priest at the church
When is the appropriate time to tip the priest? At rehearsal, or at the wedding?
Post # 7
@FutureDrZ: Honestly? No. I think $300 is so darn expensive that frankly they don’t need more of a tip on top of that.
Post # 8
With the amount of money we’re shelling out for annulments, NFP seminar, engaged encounter AND the standard fee for marrying in the church, we’re already at $1500. Would we like to give more to the church? Absolutely. But we can barely afford to get married in the church period and are most likely not going to have a reception because of it. If we offend our priest by not giving even more, I guess I don’t really care! Wow, that sounds bad, lol.
Edited to say that I don’t think our priest would be offended, anyway. I may spend some time doing volunteer fundraising for them, anyway.
Post # 9
@FutureDrZ: I would say best time to tip would be as you’re leaving the church (cathedral) after the ceremony, after pictures, etc. I would have it ready in an envelope with a thank you card, and hand it to him as you leave to your next spot.
Also, I agree to tip with what’s in your budget. $100 is more than enough; it is a tip after all. 🙂
Post # 10
@FutureDrZ: we gave our priest $50. if we could have given more we would have, but that was all we could afford at that point.
we gave him the donation the last time we met with him before the wedding.