Post # 1
I have two weddings to go to in April….one a friend from growing up and one a new friend. So, let’s just say they are both friends…of mine by the way, not Darling Husband. (if that matters) So, they aren’t super close friends, but more then acquitances. As a standard, I normally just give $150 when I go to a wedding from me and Darling Husband. Unless it’s a cousin, or family member I might give more. Darling Husband is still in grad school until August and I don’t have a job. Is $150 too much, just right, not enough? What do you usually give? Also, I live on the Northeast coast if that gives you an estimate for location. Thanks!
P.S. I don’t know why but I guess I would just feel cheap if I gave less. Like they would think less of me or differently. Idk why.
Post # 3
It totally depends on your income and your level of friendship. Also depends a bit on their situation (in my opinion anyway).
But I make a good deal of money and I generally will buy a gift that’s around $75 if it’s just me and a $100-110 gift (plus shipping) if it is me and my Fiance. So I think you’re being really nice as it is.
Post # 4
Well, I’m also in Grad School so, we usually do $50-$75. I’m sure that will go up slightly after Grad School and once we have more of an income, but I honestly don’t feel like there is a “right” amount. If it were one of my best friends, I’d probably be IN the wedding, so knowing that I try to keep it streamlined for everyone else. If you’re comfortable spending $300 in April and that is financially doable, I don’t think there’s an issue. If you do think that may be excessive (esp adding in travel costs, etc) then maybe cut it back to $100 each?
Post # 5
I’m from the Northeast and we (fiance and I) usually give $200 for friends.
Post # 6
Yeah, well for one of them we will most likely stay the night, hopefully share a room with my sister and bf but do you take lodging into consideration?
Post # 7
i didnt vote because i think it depends on what you can afford. Fiance and I are both long time grad student, so we would give about $100 combined for an acquanitance. maybe a bit more if it was a really close friend or family member. maybe not thought, just depends what we can afford when we go.
Post # 8
If it’s just me going to a wedding, I usually aim to spent around $40, buying from the registry. Now that we’re married, I’d say we usually spend around $75 on a gift. Maybe less if I had to buy a shower gift too.
Post # 9
I don’t make a lot so I tend to give gifts rather than money. So I’ll pick 2 or 3 things from the registry.
Post # 10
I selected $25-50, even though I usually give less. I will usually buy a gift for around $10-15, but I’m a college student and I really can’t afford more. I also live in the southeast, if that makes a difference. We’re poor down here 😛
If you can’t afford what you usually give, then give less. I’m sure no one will judge you any differently! And quite frankly, too me, $150 is a lot. I wouldn’t expect more than $40 from most guests at my wedding!!
Post # 11
We usually give $100. If it’s a really good friend, we would give more, probably around $200. Lodging and other expenses would be a factor, depending on the circumstances.
I wouldn’t feel cheap giving less than $150 – I think $100 is very generous! Really, whatever you can afford is generous in my book 🙂
Post # 12
Fiance and I are still in college (read: broke) but we usually aim for a gift totally $100, sometimes we can only scrape $60-$75 but then we usually try to use a coupon or find a deal to get something a little nicer. If moneys tight and you don’t want to seem stingy I’d recommend a gift rather then cash, even if they know how much it cost it still seems less obvious to me.
Post # 13
We have tried to go for 50-75 per couple, but I would rather do 100-150. We just can’t wing it right now as we don’t make a whole lot. But, I do like giving gifts over money! I just love going and personally picking something out… it’s so much fun!
Post # 14
I just had this conversation with my Maid/Matron of Honor. It’s entirely regional, as you mentioned… But no one is going to balk at $100. So, as long as you’re over that, you’re good! Give whatever you’re comfortable with.
Post # 15
I’m from the Northeast coast too and I’d sy $150 is average and certainly a nice gift. I’ve never gone below $100, and that’s usually if I’m attending alone (I don’t mean to insult anyone I know it’s very regional, and cost of living and cost of having a wedding here is definitely higher than other regions). I know those who are more established in their careers will give $250 or so.
Post # 16
If it’s someone we’re not particularly close with we normally gift $150 from both of us. If its a close family member/friend then we gift atleast $200. This also depends on the type of wedding the couple is having since I do kind of abide by the “cover your plate” rule. If the couple is having a black tie affair and is clearly paying an arm and a leg to feed us then we’ll gift them more than we would if they were having a backyard BBQ reception.