(Closed) How much to give the Deacon who is marrying us???

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
  • poll: How much should we give our Deacon for marrying us?
    200 : (3 votes)
    50 %
    250 : (0 votes)
    300 : (3 votes)
    50 %
    more, answer below : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    3720 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We were told $500 is the recommendation for our church (even though the priest isn’t part of the parish and it is an old family friend). The general opinion is that $300-$500 seems normal.

    Post # 5
    9552 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It depends on a lot of factors. Was there a charge associated with all the counseling, or is that included? Will he be at both the rehersal and the dinner? etc? In my denomination $500 would be way too much so maybe it’s also different by denomination. I would have thought $100-$250 but maybe Catholic preists are more expensive!

    Post # 7
    828 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think that any of the choices are acceptable, but it sounds like he is spending a lot of time with you before the wedding so I would go with $300.


    Oh, I just saw that you paid for the marriage prep course separately, so maybe you could spend a little less. $250?

    Post # 8
    2 posts
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I was wondering the same thing.  We paid $450 for the church and are having a destination wedding.  I’ve been told that anything you something to the priest, he has to give it to the church.  Other websites have suggested giving gift cards.  I’m planning on giving $100.

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