Post # 1
Most of my friends don’t have kids yet, so I really haven’t been to very many baby showers. I was just invited to my step brother’s wife’s baby shower and I have no idea what the appropriate amount is to spend on a gift. She’s a great person, but we are not that close (nor am I very close with that particular stepbrother). To be honest, I was surprised to even be invited. I’m not going to be able to attend the shower (she lives 8+ hours away from me) so I was wondering how I much I should spend on the gift. One friend told me $30 and another told me $100 (which seems like WAY too much to me) …. what would be the appropriate amount? Do I spend a bit more because I’m unable to attend the actual shower? I don’t want to look cheap but at the same time I’m saving for my own wedding so money isn’t exactly free flowing at the moment.
Any advice would be great!
Post # 3
I usually stick to $50 but I guess it all depends on how well you know them and if you are really close.
Post # 4
I always spend too much on shower gifts. I shoot for $40, but then end up spending money on the wrapping, and I like to include a little extra like a book or a pacifier or little socks or whatever. So I usually spend around $60.
Post # 5
My brother’s girlfriend is having a babyshower in a couple of weeks and I’m probably not going to attend. She’s 14 (yikes! I know) and I’ve only met her a couple of times. I spent 25ish on two outfits and a blanket and I also spent another 20ish on her shower invites.
Spend whatever you feel comfortable. I would say a cute outfit with a pair of socks or mittens would be okay.
Post # 6
A gift will be appreciated. $30 seems plenty but I guess it depends what circle you’re in. My relatives that are going in on a gift are spending about $50 each and that’s people I’m fairly close with – some of my immediate family (like mothers and one of my baby obsessed sisters) are spending a bit more but other friends I’m guessing will spend around $20-$30 from what I’ve seen at other showers.
Post # 7
I usually go with $30 with baby showers.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone, I was thinking $50 would be more than enough and you all just confirmed it.
Post # 9
I usually spend about $30, and up to $50 if it’s someone I’m really close with. If it’s a coworker, we usually go in on a group gift for $10-15 each.
Post # 10
depends on how well I know the person. For my BFF I spent $250 and had a lovely layette made for the baby. Then, when the baby was 3 months old I bought her a crib set ($499) that her mommy fell in love with. For cousins, or people I am not extremely close to I spend about $100.
Post # 11
Where I am people usually seem to spend about $30.
Post # 12
i usually spend between $50 and $100, depending on how close we are to the parents. i think if you’re not even going to be able to attend, i think $50 is fine.
Post # 13
$30 if you are not that close
$50 if you are somewhat close
$50+ if you are related and close
Post # 14
i think it depends on what you can afford and how well you know them…
Is she registered anywhere? getting things they registered for are ALWAYS a plus!
Post # 15
For me it depends on how close to them I am. For family or close friend I spend $150. For just a friend $100 and for someone I’m not close to like a co worker I go between $50-$75