Post # 1
My fiance just got a raise and a bonus at work and we started talking about what salary would be comfortable where I could quit my job and we could start having kids.
What would your SO’s salary have to be for you to consider being a stay-at-home mom/wife or for you to do something you love regardless of the pay?
EDIT: This is not a commentary on whether you would stay-at-home or not. Everyone has different circumstances and choices. To each their own. I’m just asking what single income is comfortable. Thanks everyone 🙂
Post # 3
@MrsR2014: You need an additional poll option of “there is no amount that would make me want to be a stay at home wife” Cause that’s what I’d pick. 🙂 A stay at home mom is an entirely different can of worms, because there’s actually a reason to stay at home with kids. Staying at home as a wife? That’s just lazy (unless there are some extenuating circumstances such as health reasons)
Post # 4
I am off of work this week and DH is working. I am going out of my mind bored. I agree with @Asia:. If we had kids, I would consider being a SAHM. Without kids, no way.
Post # 5
@MrsR2014: None. We don’t plan on having children and I’d be bored out of my mind. I’d also feel guilty for not contributing.
Post # 6
At least $150k. But I’d be more comfortable around $200k.
And that would be after we had kids/got pregnant.
Post # 7
Do you mean to stay at home once the baby is born? Or stay at home while TTC?
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands
I would never be a stay at home wife.
In order to be a stay at home mom, I’d need him to make… probably the 80-100k range. I haven’t really given it much thought. We’re not going to be TTC anytime soon, so I haven’t looked up how much money we’ll need to comfortably raise children.
Post # 10
@MrsR2014: No salary could make me stay home. I love my career and worked hard to get here, I don’t plan on giving it up. I would be open to working part-time while baby is young, so in order to do that, DH would have to make the difference of my salary cut on top of his, which would be around $150-200k Probably not going to happen in the next 7 months, though.
Post # 11
70-90k +.. Combined we make ~75k.. But it would take more than that to be comfortable with me not working
ETA: As a SAHM.. No Kids = I WILL work…
ETA (again): Even if I was a SAHM, I would probably start up a home business (Miche Bags, avon..something…)
Post # 12
Over $200k. We currently make $180k combined, and honestly i’d want him to make more than that to compensate for the earning growth potential I still have in my career. We live in the bay area, and on our current salaries, we cannot afford to have 2 kids in daycare simultaneously – it’s that expensive here.
I wouldn’t stay home, though – i’d start a photography business and possibly volunteer with a dog rescue group.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@MrsR2014: He would need to make $100K+ for us to have the conversation. However, I have absolutely no desire to be a SAHM because I would go crazy. I already tried being a part time SAHM with my stepdaughter and I was bored to death plus I didn’t get along with the other SAHMs so I was very lonely not having any social interaction other than my husband and stepdaughter. I was a very unhappy housewife.
Post # 14
@MrsR2014: I would never stay at home. I just like working and taking care of myself, or having the ability to do so is probably a more accurate statement.
But my mother never worked, she was home with us all the time. I am very grateful to have that with my mother. But for me nah…..I like working, and being away from home.
But I would never fault another for wanting to be be at home with her kids, and family.
Post # 15
it depends, I’m not yet entirely sure what the lifestyle we want will cost. However, we’d love to have one of us at home with younger children
Post # 16
I remember there was a similar topic like this that I think got closed because there were a lot of negative comments about stay-at-home moms and housewives. Just a heads up. I don’t agree with the comments above though.
I think whatever is right for your family unit or household is entirely your own business.
My mom was a stay-at-home mom and we loved it growing up. She was always up in the morning making breakfast before school, walked us to school, was there when we got home. I loved that feeling knowing my mom was always there for us. It was a great comfort. She went back to work when we starting getting older, but I think there’s nothing wrong with staying at home to raise your kids.