How much would SO have to make for you to consider staying at home?

posted 4 years ago in Money
  • poll: How much would your SO have to make for you to stay-st-home?
    50k-70k : (62 votes)
    12 %
    70k-90k : (75 votes)
    15 %
    90k-100k : (68 votes)
    13 %
    100k-120k : (87 votes)
    17 %
    120k-150k : (66 votes)
    13 %
    150k plus : (155 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @MrsR2014:  You need an additional poll option of “there is no amount that would make me want to be a stay at home wife” Cause that’s what I’d pick. 🙂 A stay at home mom is an entirely different can of worms, because there’s actually a reason to stay at home with kids. Staying at home as a wife? That’s just lazy (unless there are some extenuating circumstances such as health reasons)


    Post # 4
    3127 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I am off of work this week and DH is working. I am going out of my mind bored. I agree with @Asia:. If we had kids, I would consider being a SAHM. Without kids, no way.

    Post # 5
    5209 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @MrsR2014:  None. We don’t plan on having children and I’d be bored out of my mind. I’d also feel guilty for not contributing. 

    Post # 6
    9028 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    At least $150k.  But I’d be more comfortable around $200k.

    And that would be after we had kids/got pregnant.

    Post # 7
    3949 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Do you mean to stay at home once the baby is born?  Or stay at home while TTC?

    Post # 8
    4525 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    I would never be a stay at home wife. 

    In order to be a stay at home mom, I’d need him to make… probably the 80-100k range. I haven’t really given it much thought. We’re not going to be TTC anytime soon, so I haven’t looked up how much money we’ll need to comfortably raise children. 

    Post # 9
    11242 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013


    Post # 10
    11760 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MrsR2014:  No salary could make me stay home. I love my career and worked hard to get here, I don’t plan on giving it up. I would be open to working part-time while baby is young, so in order to do that, DH would have to make the difference of my salary cut on top of his, which would be around $150-200k Probably not going to happen in the next 7 months, though. 


    Post # 11
    1566 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    70-90k +.. Combined we make ~75k.. But it would take more than that to be comfortable with me not working

    ETA: As a SAHM.. No Kids = I WILL work…

    ETA (again): Even if I was a SAHM, I would probably start up a home business (Miche Bags, avon..something…)

    Post # 12
    10369 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Over $200k. We currently make $180k combined, and honestly i’d want him to make more than that to compensate for the earning growth potential I still have in my career. We live in the bay area, and on our current salaries, we cannot afford to have 2 kids in daycare simultaneously – it’s that expensive here.

    I wouldn’t stay home, though – i’d start a photography business and possibly volunteer with a dog rescue group.


    Post # 13
    9147 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @MrsR2014:  He would need to make $100K+ for us to have the conversation.  However, I have absolutely no desire to be a SAHM because I would go crazy.  I already tried being a part time SAHM with my stepdaughter and I was bored to death plus I didn’t get along with the other SAHMs so I was very lonely not having any social interaction other than my husband and stepdaughter.  I was a very unhappy housewife.

    Post # 14
    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsR2014:  I would never stay at home.  I just like working and taking care of myself, or having the ability to do so is probably a more accurate statement.

    But my mother never worked, she was home with us all the time.  I am very grateful to have that with my mother.  But for me nah…..I like working, and being away from home.

    But I would never fault another for wanting to be be at home with her kids, and family. 

    Post # 15
    4528 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    it depends, I’m not yet entirely sure what the lifestyle we want will cost. However, we’d love to have one of us at home with younger children

    Post # 16
    474 posts
    Helper bee

    I remember there was a similar topic like this that I think got closed because there were a lot of negative comments about stay-at-home moms and housewives. Just a heads up. I don’t agree with the comments above though. 

    I think whatever is right for your family unit or household is entirely your own business. 

    My mom was a stay-at-home mom and we loved it growing up. She was always up in the morning making breakfast before school, walked us to school, was there when we got home. I loved that feeling knowing my mom was always there for us. It was a great comfort. She went back to work when we starting getting older, but I think there’s nothing wrong with staying at home to raise your kids. 


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