How much would you give as a wedding gift from the two of you?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much would you give as a wedding gift from the two of you?
    $0-$25 : (8 votes)
    5 %
    $26-$50 : (29 votes)
    19 %
    $51-$75 : (26 votes)
    17 %
    $76-$100 : (34 votes)
    22 %
    $101-$125 : (18 votes)
    12 %
    $126-$150 : (13 votes)
    9 %
    $151-$175 : (3 votes)
    2 %
    $176-$200 : (7 votes)
    5 %
    $200+ : (14 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I would probably give $100 because in my family and culture we usually try to give $50 for each person who attends. If the couple is VERY close to us then we would generously give more.

    I do find it odd that you got invited through text and that they have expensive stuff on their registry that are $1500 to $3000. That’s pretty unheard of to me. Maybe it’s just me.

    Post # 4
    716 posts
    Busy bee

    If I was invited via text message?  A nice card and that’s it.  This seems very gift grabby.  Why would they invite someone they hadn’t seen in a few years via text?

    Post # 5
    3237 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Very odd situation, being invited via text and all.

    For a friend that I wasn’t close with I would spend $25-$50.

    Post # 6
    3635 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If we were just high school friends and got a TEXT INVITATION to the wedding… not more than $100.  Maybe less, but most people know we make good money so we’d look real cheap at $50.

    This is tainted by my 32 years of friends coming and going from my life, however.  Take with a grain of salt.  🙂

    Post # 7
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 1993

    I agree.  You have not seen him in 2 or 3 years and you get an invitation via text. Sounds like you were on the “B” or “C” list.. I am not sure i would even go, but $25 or $50 if I did.  

    Post # 8
    1327 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    So normally we go for about $100 at weddings, more for a close friend (we’re in our early-mid 20’s).  But since you haven’t seen him in years, and got invited short notice via text…I would say $50-$75 is totally fine

    Post # 9
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Usually my fiancé and I give $50 worth of a gift or cash.  We’ve never received an invite by text before.  Had that been the case, probably just a card. 

    Post # 10
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I generally give $100+ each (so in this case would be $200), but you were clearly invited last minute. I’ve been invited last minute before- over facebook the week before, and I just said that I’m not going.

    If I had went, I’d probably give $75 each, but I’d seriously consider saying yes to that type of invitation.

    Post # 11
    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Since the invitation was via text and it was clearly a last minute invitation, I would either not attend (and send a small $50 max gift) or attend and spend at most $100, if I anticipate that it will be a standard wedding with cocktail hour + meal (vs just cake and punch).

    Ordinarily, DH and I spend up to $200 but that’s when we get a normal invitation.

    Post # 12
    205 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I know this isn’t quite what you asked but I would never attend a wedding if I were invited via text and didn’t know any of the details.  

    My standard gift for SO + me is $100.  It was $50 when we were both in college although I’ve come to learn (thanks Bee!) that that was probably too little.

    Post # 14
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @yumiyumi:  Whatever you can reasonably afford without going into debt or sacrificing any of your own goals. If that is $50, then it’s $50. It doesn’t sound like you are very close with this couple anyway or that you were on their original invitee list. Personally, I wouldn’t even go.


    Post # 15
    1303 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    @yumiyumi:  I typically give $200 or more for the both of us, but in your case, I don’t think I’d go at all.  Or if I did, maybe give $100 total.  It sounds like they didn’t get enough RSVPs and they needed to meet a minimum at their venue so they decided to dig around and see who else they could invite.  Text msg imo is very rude.  At least follow up the text msg by sending an official invite.

    Post # 16
    300 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I should have read the whole thing prior to voting.  A text invite drops the gift amount.  If its a BBQ or informal 75 with a small gift.  If its semi formal  100 with a small gift.

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