(Closed) How Much Would You Give: JOP/Odd Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How Much Would You Give?:
    $300 : (0 votes)
    $250 : (0 votes)
    $200 : (1 votes)
    5 %
    $150 : (3 votes)
    14 %
    $125 : (8 votes)
    38 %
    Other : (9 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    827 posts
    Busy bee

    I’d probably give even less than your lowest option, due to rudeness.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I wouldn’t go period. Or send a gift.

    Post # 6
    Member
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    A dollar! Laughing

    Post # 8
    Member
    7904 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I think since jsut one of you is going, that I’d give in the range of 50-60% of normal. It’s terribly rude what they’ve done, but I don’t think it’s right to be rude in response, but I don’t think you are being rude by giving less. I think you are just adjusting according to the fact that only one of you is invited (not going, but invited).

    Post # 9
    Member
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t send a gift and I don’t think FI should go.  I know it’s his best friend, but come on… he needs to be on your side and not the best friend’s.

    Post # 10
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    7904 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Wait, I’m confused. Are you both going now? If so, I would give the usual amount. Let the past be behind you.

    Post # 11
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    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    This makes me a terrible person but I’d wait and see if I was expected to pay for dinner or not. If I’m paying for dinner they’re getting $100 max no matter how close we are.

    Post # 14
    Member
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @ohmybears48:  Why one and not the other? That is stupid.

    Post # 15
    Member
    10563 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    If you’re not sure if you paying for the meal, I would wait.  You don’t need to give your gift at the wedding, you can do so afterwards.

    I would give less, as you were uninvited, and then less still if you have to pay for your meal.  If it were my best friend and she didn’t do something as rude as disinviting us, I wouldn’t take into account paying for a meal, unless it was something I had to budget for.

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