Post # 1
My DD’s birthday is in January. She will be TWO! She loves Minnie Mouse. I want to go all out because last year we didn’t have alot of money and didn’t get alot of stuff. Anyways I am fighting with myself about whether I am wanting to spend tons of money because I feel guilty for her 1st birthday?
My DH keeps telling me she won’t remember this birthday either and as long as we spend time with her then she will be happy no matter what. I want to go crazy with decorations and gifts but I think its out of guilt ):
How much would you spend?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t spend tons. There’s nothing to feel guilty about – they don’t remember these birthdays, and for them it isn’t about the money spent – they have no idea what money even is! I’d get some fun stuff she needs, buy or make some cute decorations without going overboard, and put the rest you were going to spend into a 529 fund for college. She’ll remember and appreciate that SO much more!
Post # 4
@crayfish: Thanks! I know she doesn’t know. We are thinking instead of gifts, getting her a barbie and taking her to the zoo or something fun. Pictures we can put in a scrapbook for when she grows up?
Post # 5
@crayfish: I like this idea.
Post # 6
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@figgnewton: I think one gift (like a Barbie) and a fun day at the zoo is a PERFECT gift. She’ll have fun in the moment and you’ll be able to save these memories and show them to her when she’s older! Looking back, I have no IDEA what gifts I got as a child (even a child with memories!) but I do remember the vacations and trips and zoo days with my parents–they very much emphasized experiences over gifts and I hope to be able to do the same with our future children.
Post # 7
When my son turned 2, I got him a zoo pass & added money to his 529 plan. People love buying toys for toddlers, he didn’t need any from us. He still got way more than he needed. I also started a tradition where we go through all his clothes/toys before birthdays & Christmas & donate a handful. He’s old enough this year to pick what he wants to give to others, but, in the past, I’ve done it myself. It’s a nice way to incorporate “giving” into commercial holidays & to make sure he doesn’t end up with too much “stuff”.
Post # 8
@figgnewton: My cousin soemd $1000 on her three year old daughter’s birthday presents last year. No exaggeration. She is a little kid and she doesn’t need all that stuff, just a few decorations and some gifts to unwrap. I know you feel guilty about her 1st, but don’t. She probably had a good time (I obviously wasn’t there but I’m willing to bet) and so did you. Enjoy the age where they don’t want/need expensive gifts to make their birthdays a success!
Post # 9
I spent 200 on my little girls 1st bday. It could have been ALOT less because we had alot of family and close friends invited and siad they were going to come and only half of them showed up. Alot of the money was spent on food and gifts. We probably could have saved 70-ish on food.The only decorations we had were some helium balloons and streemers. We’re going to do the same thing this year for my daughters second and sons first bday.
Post # 10
I voted 0-50, but I guess anything under 100. Sometimes spending can add up quickly for this type of thing, especially decorations that don’t seem expensive but the price adds up. I would agree with your husband that your daughter will not remember this birthday and I would spend the bigger bucks on the birthdays that she will actually remember and get to be a more active participant in. By the way, I don’t think you should feel any guilt for not going over the top for her 1st birthday. I don’t think it’s necessary to do that for a 1st birthday and it ends up being more about the parents than the kid when it’s so over the top.