How much would you spend on a BM dress?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I personally would spend $200 before alterations (and have spent that much). However, if you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it. Tell her that you can’t spend that amount on a dress right now and perhaps search for some similar dresses that are in your price range and/or tell her what you feel comfortable spending so she can keep looking.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

$150 seems reasonable to me, but then again everyone’s situation is different. And 4 weeks seems like very short notice! I was just in a wedding this weekend and paid $330 for my bridesmaid’s dress. It was a lot, but she did let us know at least 7 months before. (plus it’s absolutely gorgeous and I may even wear it for my engagement photos, I love it that much). Also paid to travel to both bachelorette and wedding. Being in a wedding can get so expensive! 

Is 4 weeks even enough time to order bridesmaids dresses? I had to order mine 4 months before the wedding! Does your sister know your financial situation, especially with your own wedding coming up? 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

$150 might be reasonable if she gave you enough notice. Given that she didn’t give you notice, I would simply tell her that you can’t afford that much along with the cost of a shower and bachelorette in such a short time period, and ask her to priorize what is most important for her.

Are there other bridesmaids? If not, do you have a dress that you think would be suitable for you to wear to her wedding? If so, you could suggest she let you wear a dress you already own. Or, she could agree that you could rent a dress. there are lots of great dresses on http://www.renttherunway.com  for $50.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It seems reasonable, but like the PP mentioned – if you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It seems pretty reasonable. Maybe you can scale back the bachelorette/shower to afford the dress. If it was me, I would find a way to make it work for my sister. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

amelliafay:  since your sister really has her heart set on this dress, and it sounds like the short notice is what’s making it hard for you to come up with the money, do you think you could just be honest with her? Perhaps she would loan you the money? Also, if she’s getting married in 4 weeks 18 days might be cutting it close. She should confirm that means 18 calendar days, not 18 business days

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

$150 seems like a lot to me for a dreas you very probably will never wear again, and are only wearing as a favor to someone! Esp because there are soooo many online stores you can find really cute dresses on for way less than $150. I would consider a BM dress in the 40-80 dollar range reasonable, and anything above 100 I would consider extravagant.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

Be honest with her, tell her if you have to purchase the dress that you probably wont be able to contribute to her bridal shower and bach party. It will suck, but its give and take and she cant expect on such short notice that you should put yourself in a predicament financially because of her wedding. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

amelliafay:  I just spent $400 on a bridesmaid dress and that’s before alterations so $150 sounds good to me haha but I also don’t have cash to spare so I totally get what you mean and having to purchase things at short notice can be really stressful! I put mine on my credit card and i’ll pay it off (expecting my tax return soon so that should cover it thankfully!).

It’s for my best friends wedding and i’m her MOH so I could justify it in that sense.. it’s also a beautiful dress that I will definitely wear again. She’ll be purchasing a bridesmaid dress for my wedding a few months after hers and while I’ve told them they can pick their own she’ll probably go for something similar so I guess it evens out.

Weddings sure add up.. even when its not your own!!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

amelliafay:  My girls paid $225 for theirs. But we did get a deal on alterations to help balance it out.

I paid over $200 for dresses in the past as well, it’s the norm around here though.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

amelliafay:  I would spend as much as $200. Anything more than that is too high but depending on how close I am with the bride, I would spend a lil more. 

I know some brides who made their BMs spend over $300 on a dress

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would pay $200. If it were more than that, I would start skimping on the gift or other expenses. 

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