Post # 1
FH and I registered for gifts, I used the store guideline for the number of items per price point but now I’m worried that things are too expensive (even though most of them would fit in my typical wedding gift budget).
Also – would you buy someone towels? They’re the one thing that FH and I both really really want but we don’t think anyone will buy them.
(we have 11 items – most requesting multiples under $25 ea most between $50 and $100 and a few big ticket items – a clothing steamer, kitchenaid mixer, electric griddle….)
Post # 2
In the UK most weddings are split into 2 guest-lists: people invited to the whole day (ceremony, meal, and evening reception), and people invited to the evening reception only. So, how much I would spend would depend on what I was invited to, but I would probably spend anything from $120-240 (per person) if I was invited to the whole thing, depending on the type of wedding and how close I was to the couple; and for the evening only I would spend from $30/35-65, again depending on the style of event and how close I was to the couple.
And yes, I would buy someone towels; I think nice, good quality towels are very useful and nice to have so would probably choose to buy something like that, or cutlery, glassware, etc.
Post # 3
wow after the last 2 wedding registries ive looked at….your AMAZING! the one i got found this morning…the CHEAPEST thing on the registry was $50….for a plate to sit butter on….yup you read that right…most items were $150 or higher….so i think you did fine….on average when we go to a wedding we spend around $50/a gift for the wedding and stay cheaper for the shower….so as long as EVERYTHING on the registry isnt an expensive item then your fine….
also yes….I have bought people towel sets off their registry….usually what i do is 2 towels, 2 wash cloths and 1 hand towel and call it good….(as long as these are $25-50 per towel towels….then theyd get 1)….
Id say you did fine and seem about the price range of most registries….
eta: the registries are weddings my FI and I are invited too……I re-read that and it sounded like i just look for registries…lol…
Post # 4
MsGinkgo: I love to buy towels and linens for people. For shower gifts, it’s my go to gift and the first thing I pluck off the registry. I probably spend $60 to $80 on shower gifts. For weddings, I give money.
Post # 5
$50-$100 is probably my max right now, but that’s because I’m planning a wedding as well! Normally, I’m much more generous with gifts, but I just don’t have the cash now!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I would definitley spend more for a gift or cash for the actual wedding, around $100-$150. For a shower or something I might spend a little bit less. I am more likley to give something like towels and an assortment of smaller price point gifts at the shower than I would for an actual wedding gift.
You never know though, I had such a range of gifts and most people so far have gone with smaller gifts $50 or less. At my first shower multiple people went in on gifts. For example I had 5 people give me a $30 gift, 4 people give an $80 gift, 2 people give a $100 gift…I don’t think a single person gave a gift alone that cost more than $50. We had one person buy us sheets but no one bought us towels even though we did register for some. I mostly got kitchen items. If you really want towels, maybe someone will give gift cards and then you have something to use them on if you don’t get them.
Post # 7
I think your range is fine. DH and I didn’t get many towels from the registry for the shower or wedding but our families gave us some for Christmas! We also got a ton of gift cards we used to buy our linens with. You can always get them later.
Post # 7
Even if people don’t buy towels, you will most likely get some cash, which can be traded for towels 🙂
My gift would depend on the relationship and my financial status at the time. Last wedding I went to, I was in the wedding party and had to travel, so I just did a nice frame and cute pajamas since she never had a shower or bachelorette party. Total cost was around $50. Weddings before that, I was in college and probably gave $25 because that’s what I could give. In the future, I’ll give more if/when I am able to
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
Your registry sounds a lot like ours and I was a bit worried about prices, because I couldn’t imagine that people would want to spend that on us… but then my FFIL looked at it and said it looked good and he’s the cheapest person ever (like he rips his paper napkins in half to save money!) so I was more confident after that 😉 We registered for towels too and they’re one of the main things we care about. I’m relieved that people seem to be buying them and I think that I’ll get some of them at my shower.
I would love to buy a towel or sheet set for someone! I think I would spend about $50 on a shower gift and $100-$150 on a wedding gift depending on how close I was to the person. Someday when we have a better income I plan to spend a bit more (: I think your registry sounds good and really reasonable. My FI’s step sister is getting married a couple months after us and has a really pricey registry and pretty much everything is $150-$350 and there are like 40 things on it aha. I would definitely appreciate a registry like yours 😉
Post # 10
did you have your shower yet? i received 90% of the towels i registered for at my shower.
i mainly received money or gift cards at the wedding.
Post # 11
ajillity81: I’m not having a shower. My bridal party and wedding guests are scattered across the country so it’s really just not feasible. It bums me out a little bit because I’m one of those people who goes above and beyond for my friends for their weddings and wedding events but what can you do?
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
If it’s someone I’m close to, I’ll spend $50-75 on the gift. If it’s just a coworker or whatever, I’ll probably spend about $25. If I’m already in the wedding, I will skip the registry/gift entirely because I’m already making a pretty sizable financial contribution through the dress + bachelorette + all that. I will, however, write a heartfelt letter about it.
Post # 13
MsGinkgo: All our towels were purchased last month for our June wedding. Shouldn’t be an issue!
Post # 14
I would buy towels for a shower gift, but for a wedding gift, I prefer to give something that will last forever and not have to be replaced. I think that is a common mentality, but as others say, you can use any checks to buy the towels or even exchange other gifts for the towels if they are your priority. I didn’t have a shower or a registry. Most people gave checks but a few gifts were duplicates and it was no big deal to exchange them.
Post # 15
I typically go by the rule of thumb, $50 per person. So whenever my FI attend a wedding we spend around $100.
I would totally buy someone towels. A wedding is a nice opportunity to replace things and to have things as a couple…. and nice towels are expensive!