Post # 1
We are planning a fairly simple ceremony. The processional will be only me and my Dad walking down the aisle. My fiance will stand up front with the officiant. No bridesmaids or groomsmen. No readings or songs during the ceremony. Pretty straight forward and not too much to coordinate or practice.
So is a rehearsal really neccessary? And if so who should be there? Is a rehearsal dinner neccessary if there’s no rehearsal? And if so can you call it a rehearsal dinner? We are expecting some out of town guests so it might be nice to go out to dinner with just them and immediate family the night before… but then that’s another expense. And who pays if it’s not a “rehearsal dinner”?
Post # 3
@RiverBride13: I’m not having a rehearsal dinner because frankly, there is nothing to rehearse. We have some folks staying at the same hotel as us so we might just meet up with them at the hotel restaurant for dinner. If we do that we will all just split the bill.
Post # 4
@ArtDecoLisa: So no rehearsal either? Does that make you nervous? I guess keeping it simple means there’s nothing really to rehearse, you’re right….
Post # 5
We’re not planning on a rehearsal either. We have 2 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen, but all they’ll be doing is standing there. And I dont see why either me or my dad need to practice walking, we’ve been doing that for all our lives.
Post # 6
No rehearsal/dinner, even though rehearsal with the officiant was free. We had dinner with the parents the night before at a steakhouse type place paid for by his dad/step mom (she tried telling me it was the bride’s duty but I don’t care about food or eating out lol). His mom and long time boyfriend had not met me or my parents before then and I’d have been happy to get them together, we only did the dinner cause his step mom insisted and they paid. No issues in the wedding but it was small.
Post # 7
@allyfally: That’s how I tend to feel also, but then I get sucked in sometimes to the “this is what everyone does” phenomenon. It’s good to step back and make sure you are still doing things because they make sense and they are what you want.
Post # 8
I’d say both were completely unnecessary. I’m in the UK though and neither are very common here.
Post # 9
I didn’t have a rehearsal and it went without a hitch.
Post # 10
It doesn’t sound like you need a rehearsal, so I’d skip it. If you can afford it, have “welcome dinner” for your Out of Town guests and forego the rehearsal traditions!
Post # 11
You don’t need either, but a rehearsal can come in handy in certain circumstances. When my parents got married 30 years ago, they didn’t have a rehearsal. But it was an intercultural wedding, so my mom (an Irish-American woman who went to parochial school) was really confused with the Ukrainian traditions present in their Orthodox church wedding.
That, and rehearsal dinners are courteous if there are mant out-of-town guests.
Post # 12
this is gonna sound silly, but the rehearsal is fun. You get to see everyone right before the big day, get to shake some of the nerves off, get to use that silly fake bouquet made out of the ribbons from your bridal shower (if you do that) and you go out for yummy food after. If you feel strongly about not having one then that’s okay too 🙂 There’s no real *need* for one, but then again, there’s no real need for a wedding either, is there?
Post # 13
We didnt have one. The ceremony went smoothly.
Post # 14
I don’t think an elaborate rehearsal dinner matters if you’re having a small wedding. But it might be nice to have a “dinner,” beforehand for immediate family that is travelling.
Post # 15
We didn’t do one and it ended up just fine. I just had the bridal party over to my house one day and we did a quick run through to the music. It took all but 15 minutes and it was beautiful the day of!
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We skipped the rehearsal- it’s a wedding, not brain surgery. 🙂 Our minister went over the line up with the guys for about 5 minutes before the ceremony, and everything went fine.
It was really important for Darling Husband to have the rehearsal dinner the night before, so we had our bridal party and immediate family together. Our parents had only met once, so it was a nice time for them to meet again. My Mom really enjoyed getting to meet my two attendant’s husbands (she’s known the girls for 20+ years), she also liked getting to meet the guys on DH’s side, etc. I also did a more personal toast/thank you speech that the joint one Darling Husband and I did at the wedding.