Post # 1
How offended should I be? Mother-In-Law rant!
Darling Husband step brother gave us a check as a wedding gift, however the check was returned. His step brother lives outside of the U.S. and his sister gave us the check. The reason the check was returned was because it was not a open account. I told his mom that the check was returned and the reason why it was returned because I was worried that his sister was using the wrong check book.
Mother-In-Law then makes a big deal how he should not have done that and was insisting that they give us new check. I told her and the step brothers mother and sister not to worry about it.
The step brother was back in town this past weekend and gave my Mother-In-Law $100 in cash to give to us.
Here is the problem! Mother-In-Law told me she is going to give me a check instead of the cash because she know that if she gives me cash I will spend it.
1 It was not your money to make that decision to give us a check!
2 you can not tell me what to do with my money
I told her that she does not have the authorization to give us a check and I will not take it.
THEN she does and says that since I am Mexican I will spend the money because that’s what Mexicans people do. WTF is wrong with her.
Once I told her I was not going to take the check she then said she was going to give it Darling Husband and he would take it. If he does I am going to make a $100 donation to the SPCA (she hates animals) on her behave.
Why does she feel the need to control our finances! What is wrong with the woman! I told Darling Husband what happened and he called her and told her she cannot control our finances, we are adults and we will do what ever I want.
So am I overreacting?
Post # 3
@RVG1010: No you aren’t overreacting. Nevermind trying to control your finances, she’s turning it into a racial issue? Sounds like a whackjob.
At least your husband is on your side…
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I would be ridiculously offended, how dare she say that to you?
Post # 5
I don’t see what the big deal is, cash or check, as long as she gave you the money and the check didn’t bounce. But the fact that she made it a racial issue is completely NOT ok!!! So no, you’re not overreacting. She took it in a direction that is unacceptable. Sorry she did that!! 🙁
Post # 6
@RVG1010: umm… That’s what Mexicans do? I probably would have been like “no bitch. Mexicans slash people’s tires who take their money.”
Post # 7
@RVG1010: How offended should I be?
Well to answer your question, as offended as you want to be I suppose. She handled the situation poorly, your Darling Husband stepped in where appropriate and hopefully will continue to remind her where her place is in your lives/finances.
On the racial note, I would imagine that a frank disussion between you, her and your Darling Husband should happen in order to make sure she understands that no matter her prejudices– she (1) needs to keep them to herself if she wants to keep the family unit in tact (2) understand that financial responsibility isn’t limited to one people group, people are responsible or irresponsible in every race/culture and (3) if she continues on these rants or racially charged ” interventions” on your financial behalf, you and Darling Husband will be forced to re-evaluate how much interaction she has in your day to day lives.
Last- I wouldn’t make a donation in her name for spite… don’t stoop to her level. Take that money ( when you finally get it) and put it towards something you and Darling Husband both want/need.
Post # 8
Wow, this is just me but I would have a REALLY hard time keeping my mouth shut. I would so bitch at her!
Post # 9
Wow!!! I would have slapped her!!!! I am pissed for you!!
Post # 10
OH NO SHE DIDN’T
I would have your husband call her and tell her that her racism is totally out of line. WTF.
@Mrs_Amanda: agree with the discussion, especially over how if she can’t tone it down she’ll be less involved in your lives. And especially in the lives of any future children. You’re a grown woman and understand that racism is wrong, but your children will be half your race, and I would hate to see them facing prejudice from their GRANDMOTHER due to their racial makeup. eugh. racism is gross.