Post # 1
Ugh, why does a wedding bring out the worst in people? I see why brides become bridezilla sometimes. Where do people get off by saying they aren’t coming if a certain other person is invited? Or that we “better be serving hard liquor” or they can invite themselvers or better yet they are invited but decided that they have to invite all of their childhood friends.
Last night thinking about just flying our close family and friends to Vegas and spend the weekend there sounded so much better.
I’m ready to go underground with wedding planning so my family and friends can’t say shit about it. Oh, the latest from a bridal party member? “Sweetheart necklines are so 80’s and are for flat chested women.” WTF!? Why does she keep saying this!?
Post # 3
Just ignore them all and do what you want or envision for you and your future hubby’s big day. Everyone will have weird, annoying suggestions. But, all in all it’s your big day. if you feel vegas is the right route than take it. We thought about eloping in mexico but, in the end it wasn’t for us. We wanted a big party with all our friends and family in our city.
Post # 4
I want to elope ALL. THE. TIME. I just try to remember that I’m doing this for SO and our families, and I know in my heart that the day itself will be very fun.
Post # 5
Ha! I consider it EVERY day… just to not have to deal with the stress would be wonderful. One of the only reasons we have decided to go through with our big formal wedding is that it’s very important for our grandparents to be there, and mine are unable to travel. 🙁
But it sounds so nice to just whisk everyone away and get it over-with. Ah!
Post # 6
We pretty much did that. We had to have our same-sex wedding in Massachusetts. Rather than drag everyone we knew 8 hours away on a Tuesday, we had an intimate ceremony with our immediate family and a few close friends, then took everyone out to lunch. We did have a party back home a few days later, but that was very relaxed and low stress.
Post # 7
I wanted to have an intimate destination wedding from the moment we got engaged. Hell, probably before we got engaged.
Honestly, even now that everything is said and done, I still wish we would have.
Post # 8
I did elope. The more I looked into the wedding planning/honeymoon/everyone having an opinion the more I realized what a very expensive circus it was becoming.
I had a courthouse ceremony. Couldn’t have been nicer. Sometimes I think “Oh what if…” but it’s fleeting. I did the right thing for me.
Post # 9
Before getting engaged I thought planning a wedding would be tons of fun. Now 7 months out from my wedding it’s a lot less fun than I thought. And whenever I tell my fiance that I wish we could elope he laughs at me because he had originally wanted to elope.
Post # 10
My FI and I actually did plan on eloping to Jamaica (hence the screen name). When that didn’t work out for various reasons, we decided to do small and intimate instead. We aren’t really having any drama b/c neither of us live in the same city as our family and we are keeping all of our wedding plans pretty secret. I take that back…the two of us sometimes get into it over wedding details but no arguments with other people.
Post # 11
The more I planned, the more I wanted to elope. We talked about it early on, and I was all for it, but Mr DDW felt it was really important to do the whole wedding shindig for the sake of our families. The more we planned, the more accepting he became of the idea, which, unfortunately became less realistic the more we planned, hahaha…
ETA: If we had to do it over again, we would probably elope.
Post # 12
@KatyElle: Ditto! DH and I were afraid of mentioning it to each other because we both felt like we’d feel “cheated” out of the wedding experience, but looking back, we are SO happy we had that discussion and decided to just elope.
Post # 13
After high school, I worked at a restaurant that hosted tons of weddings. Believe me, nothing cures wedding fever better than seeing 127823 interchangable wedding receptions, hearing the same songs, seeing the same traditions, over and over again…
After that, my DREAM wedding was to elope and have a small ceremony somewhere far away, possibly on a beach. FH’s uncle once suggested that we should rent a Villa in Italy, and while we’re all there on vacation, FH and I could get married. I loved the idea! Naturally, that never happened.
I’m doing the church ceremony and 150 people reception thing for my FH. It’s the wedding HE always wanted, not me. He knows it and even told me “I know this is not the wedding you wanted, but it will be fun, you will see!”.
I’m secretly dreaming of eloping ALL THE TIME, especially when planning gets annoying.
Post # 14
I begged DH to elope. I had no interest in a to-do. I caved because it was really important to him, and to his family.
Post # 15
Every day. I wanted to elope to begin with and all the planning just makes me want to do it more and more.
Originally my FI wanted a wedding, but just yesterday he said. “You have your dress now, I have my suit. Let’s just go and do it!” After all the money that’s been spent now I’d feel too bad though.
Post # 16
Oh my gosh, I remember saying to my husband numerous times, “Why didn’t we just elope?!!!” Of course we also had two weddings five months apart (India and the U.S.) which was just insane. But it all worked out and I’m so glad we didn’t elope. It was all worth it in the end! 🙂