(Closed) How Often Do You and SO Fight?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you and your SO fight? (angry disagreement w/without yelling)
    We've never really fought. : (22 votes)
    17 %
    We very rarely fight (maybe 1 time a year). : (30 votes)
    23 %
    We only occasionally fight (maybe once every 3 months). : (37 votes)
    28 %
    We fight sometimes (once a month). : (20 votes)
    15 %
    We fight more than once a month. : (22 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I honestly can’t remember a time we’ve ever really fought. We both have very go with the flow, relaxed personalities – if we have a problem with something, we say it, and that’s that. I think it helps that we live a relatively low-stress lifestyle – while we both have fairly demanding jobs, we enjoy them, and (thankfully) we’re both pretty comfortable financially. We also have very similar values – I think there’s just not (or there hasn’t been) much for us to disagree about it.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4416 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Haha even though you clarified what you meant, I need you to clarify what you mean Tongue Out

    DH and I often have little “fights” where one of us disagrees with the other, then the disagreed-with one gets momentarily pissy and we get off the phone, leave the room, etc. Then moments later when the pissiness fades, we “make up.”  These little tiffs happen daily, but I don’t think they really count since nobody really gets mad … but if someone were to witness it, they would definitely have that uncomfortable “uh oh, they’re fighting” feeling.

    But as for real actual angry fights … not very often at all anymore. The frequent tiffs let out all the steam, I think!

    Post # 5
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    8889 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @iarebridezilla:  My FI and I are the same. We have little arguments, more often we call it “Nintendo mad” when we play a game and get annoyed LOL.. and right after it’s all lovey-dovey again. We never fight, fight.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We fight once every 3 mos.  And, it is usually over stupid things like how he hopped onto the bed when he was filthy.  lol

    We usually give each other space when one of us is upset.  We both know that we would say something nasty in the heat of the moment so we never try to hash it out right then.  It will come up again the next day, though.  We also seem to finish the fight through email/letter/texts because it is easier to say what we want without being interupted.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4695 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We squabble relatively often, but neither of us are actually mad and it blows over within a minute or two! It’s been a few years since we’ve had a real fight.

    Example:

    Me: What do you want for dinner?

    Him: I don’t know, you pick.

    Me: But I don’t want to pick! I always have to pick! Why can’t you decide??

    Him: I don’t know what I want.  Just make whatever you want.

    Me: But what do you want???

    Post # 9
    Member
    4276 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Rarely. I can’t even remember what we argued about last….

    Post # 10
    Member
    7610 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I picked occasionally (every few months).  Usually it’s over not much.  Last time it was right before the wedding and it happened while we were writing our thank you speech, haha!  We were practicing it and I thought he was using a silly voice on purpose and making light of it.  Basically, we were just overstressed and overtired.  It’s pretty funny now. 🙂

    Post # 11
    Member
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Under normal circumstances we might have an argument once every three months.  They are always resolved fairly quickly, too.  The first half of our LDR this summer was a huge challenge, and we fought once a week.  We’re over that now, thank goodness, but we had to reevaluate our relationship because of it.

    Post # 12
    Member
    9625 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We rarely argue, and never squabble or bicker, it’s just not us. 

    Post # 13
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    4416 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We often argue when we’re really really drunk together, haha. But I don’t think that counts, because the next morning we’re like, did we fight last night? What did we fight about? I remember being really mad at you, but I don’t remember why!

    Gotta make the most of being in our 20’s, haha!

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    13662 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Honestly, we really don’t ever fight, I think mostly due to our personalities. I think we try to diffuse things with a discussion before either of us gets too emotional.

    Post # 15
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    2623 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I guess it depends on how you define fight? Yelling? Angry for days? etc? Or disagree strongly and talk it through to resolve it?

     

     

    Post # 16
    Member
    11328 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I voted 1 per 3 months. Although sometimes we go 6 months without a fight and sometimes we fight twice in two months… so it is random. 

    Since we moved in together I’d say the thing we’ve fought most frequently about is housework/our roles in the home. The first two years we lived together were slightly rough bc i felt like I did everything around the house and like he didn’t see all the stuff I did and gave me attitude about helping when I’d ask for it (common man/wife stuff I think!). Things are much improved now after fighting it out a few times. 

    The last time we fought was maybe 2 mo ago. He walked in the door from a long day at work to me trying to cook dinner, but the smoke alarm was going off, the dog was barking, i was trying to get the f*cking pizza out of the oven before it burned more, the cats were freaking out (aka chaos) and I started SCREAMING  at him to SET YOUR SHIT DOWN AND HELP ME OUT FOR FUCKS SAKE (um might’ve been a little frazzled). Then he got mad because I screamed. Then I got mad because he walked away and slammed a door. It was over in about 15 min haha. 

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