How often do you and your SO get into fights?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you get into arguments?
    A few times a day : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Once a day : (5 votes)
    4 %
    Once every few days : (16 votes)
    12 %
    Once a week : (16 votes)
    12 %
    2-3 times a month : (22 votes)
    16 %
    1-2 times a month : (20 votes)
    15 %
    1 or less a month : (16 votes)
    12 %
    Once every other month : (8 votes)
    6 %
    Once every few months : (30 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    15016 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Once a year, maybe. I think the last fight we had was before our wedding.

    Post # 4
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  I personally don’t consider fights to be a bad thing. Two people will never agree all the time and it is better to let feelings be known than hide behind “yes, dear.” I think the key differentiating factor between successful couples and couples who struggle is being able to fight productively and effectively rather than being in it to win it. Compromise is king and expressing yourself clearly rather than saying, “you’re a stupid asshole” is a skill that many people need to learn. 

    I’d be more worried about couples who never fight to be honest. 

    Post # 5
    3202 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I voted once every 6 months. It’s not like it’s every 6 months like clockwork, lol, but I would say that in the three years we’ve been together we’ve had around 5-6 fights.

    This is definitely the first relationship I’ve ever been in that isn’t once a month AT LEAST!

    Post # 6
    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I went with “every few months” option because for some reason, we get the most testy with each other at the turn of each season. When the season turns (along with the weather), I get extremely irritable. We’ve been together over 4 years and NEVER yelled at each other or even raised voices, but we’ve definitely had disagreements and as I said, it’s usually 4-6 times a year.

    Post # 7
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @tksjewelry:  Wow, that’s inspirational!!  

    @MrsPanda99: Panda I didn’t recognize you!  Is that a new avi?!? Or are there more pandas out there lol

    I don’t think fights are a bad thing either….we might bicker or roll our eyes at something pretty silly once a week or so.  I’d say about once a month or so one of us will do something a little insensitive and we’ll fight.  Two weeks ago we fought over our one TV.  He wanted to watch the Pirates in the playoffs (haven’t been there in 21 years), and I wanted to watch Mindy and the New Girl.  Yes, I got upset.  But, I watched his game with him and the next night we watched my recorded shows together.  What a silly thing to get worked up about!!

    Post # 8
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    we are both super busy with work all of the time, and find our sex life goes through waves.  The less sex we have the more arguments we tend to have (note: we have never argued about sex as a topic before).   Tmi but we have had sex 3 days in a row here and it has been peachy keen 🙂 😉

    Post # 9
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We typically don’t fight, but, lately, we’ve been fighting about EVERYTHING. Most of it has been stupid, too. For example, an hour ago, we got into an argument because he was complaining the dishes haven’t been done and he was sick of looking at them. (They did pile up because I haven’t been keeping up with the housework because I work and I’ve been super busy). So, he started loading them into the dishwasher and I told him that not all of them would fit, so I’d wash the excess by hand. He insisted I don’t and that I just put the rest in the dishwasher after the first load was done. Um, what? Again, I said I was washing them (and that I didn’t need his permission to wash dishes) and asked him to dry them for me, to which he refused and went off and sulked after telling me I was irritating. I think someone’s on his man-period.

    Post # 10
    896 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I do not know how often we fight.  We bicker more than anything else.  We have had fights, of course.  

    Post # 11
    498 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    2-3 times a month..we are very different and are opposites so we have a lot of disagreements..nothing major but our differences and opinions makes us work…makes for great debates and conversations…but we agree on the important things (marriage, kids, house, etc)

    Post # 12
    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @mscuppycake:  Haha, same with us! Its like we’ll have one big argument everytime theres a huge weather change.

    I dont consider them to be bad though, they actually kind of make us closer. Makes us more aware of any kinks in our relationship that we need to work on.

    Post # 13
    1169 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I would say 2-3 times a month I get annoyed with him and/or we are “snippy” with each other.  We get truly angry with one another 3-4 times a year, at most. 

    Post # 14
    1044 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We bicker almost everyday. But almost never actually fight. I can’t remember the last fight we had. It had to have been over two years ago. We just aren’t the fighting type. We say that something bothers us right away, and the other usually “fixes”  the problem. So it never really turns into a fight

    ETA: However, I don’t think  the occasional fight is a bad thing either.

    Post # 15
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I voted once a week. We bicker a lot. It has a lot to do witht he fact that we are living with my parents and have no space.

    Post # 16
    5392 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  because you specified anything that needs talking through/resolving I voted once a year; in 8 years we’ve had about 10 fights like that. 

    Smaller tiffs on the other hand? More often; probably once every 2 months? But they’re the type where I’m hormonal and being ridiculous and we laugh after. 

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