Post # 1
Just curious about the STATS and/or how they are reflected on the bee.
**NOTE: Any argument, tift, fight (no matter the size!) that results in the need to acknowledge it, talk through it, find a solution, work it out, etc…
Be honest and respectful everyone. This can be a sensitive subject for some people, but everyone handles things differently and disagreements can lead to learning and relationship growth if handled in a healthy way.
Post # 3
Once a year, maybe. I think the last fight we had was before our wedding.
Post # 4
@HappinessIsInDaisies: I personally don’t consider fights to be a bad thing. Two people will never agree all the time and it is better to let feelings be known than hide behind “yes, dear.” I think the key differentiating factor between successful couples and couples who struggle is being able to fight productively and effectively rather than being in it to win it. Compromise is king and expressing yourself clearly rather than saying, “you’re a stupid asshole” is a skill that many people need to learn.
I’d be more worried about couples who never fight to be honest.
Post # 5
I voted once every 6 months. It’s not like it’s every 6 months like clockwork, lol, but I would say that in the three years we’ve been together we’ve had around 5-6 fights.
This is definitely the first relationship I’ve ever been in that isn’t once a month AT LEAST!
Post # 6
I went with “every few months” option because for some reason, we get the most testy with each other at the turn of each season. When the season turns (along with the weather), I get extremely irritable. We’ve been together over 4 years and NEVER yelled at each other or even raised voices, but we’ve definitely had disagreements and as I said, it’s usually 4-6 times a year.
Post # 7
@tksjewelry: Wow, that’s inspirational!!
@MrsPanda99: Panda I didn’t recognize you! Is that a new avi?!? Or are there more pandas out there lol
I don’t think fights are a bad thing either….we might bicker or roll our eyes at something pretty silly once a week or so. I’d say about once a month or so one of us will do something a little insensitive and we’ll fight. Two weeks ago we fought over our one TV. He wanted to watch the Pirates in the playoffs (haven’t been there in 21 years), and I wanted to watch Mindy and the New Girl. Yes, I got upset. But, I watched his game with him and the next night we watched my recorded shows together. What a silly thing to get worked up about!!
Post # 8
we are both super busy with work all of the time, and find our sex life goes through waves. The less sex we have the more arguments we tend to have (note: we have never argued about sex as a topic before). Tmi but we have had sex 3 days in a row here and it has been peachy keen 🙂 😉
Post # 9
We typically don’t fight, but, lately, we’ve been fighting about EVERYTHING. Most of it has been stupid, too. For example, an hour ago, we got into an argument because he was complaining the dishes haven’t been done and he was sick of looking at them. (They did pile up because I haven’t been keeping up with the housework because I work and I’ve been super busy). So, he started loading them into the dishwasher and I told him that not all of them would fit, so I’d wash the excess by hand. He insisted I don’t and that I just put the rest in the dishwasher after the first load was done. Um, what? Again, I said I was washing them (and that I didn’t need his permission to wash dishes) and asked him to dry them for me, to which he refused and went off and sulked after telling me I was irritating. I think someone’s on his man-period.
Post # 10
I do not know how often we fight. We bicker more than anything else. We have had fights, of course.
Post # 11
2-3 times a month..we are very different and are opposites so we have a lot of disagreements..nothing major but our differences and opinions makes us work…makes for great debates and conversations…but we agree on the important things (marriage, kids, house, etc)
Post # 12
@mscuppycake: Haha, same with us! Its like we’ll have one big argument everytime theres a huge weather change.
I dont consider them to be bad though, they actually kind of make us closer. Makes us more aware of any kinks in our relationship that we need to work on.
Post # 13
I would say 2-3 times a month I get annoyed with him and/or we are “snippy” with each other. We get truly angry with one another 3-4 times a year, at most.
Post # 14
We bicker almost everyday. But almost never actually fight. I can’t remember the last fight we had. It had to have been over two years ago. We just aren’t the fighting type. We say that something bothers us right away, and the other usually “fixes” the problem. So it never really turns into a fight
ETA: However, I don’t think the occasional fight is a bad thing either.
Post # 15
I voted once a week. We bicker a lot. It has a lot to do witht he fact that we are living with my parents and have no space.
Post # 16
@HappinessIsInDaisies: because you specified anything that needs talking through/resolving I voted once a year; in 8 years we’ve had about 10 fights like that.
Smaller tiffs on the other hand? More often; probably once every 2 months? But they’re the type where I’m hormonal and being ridiculous and we laugh after.