How often do you and your SO/FI/DH fight?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you fight?
    multiple times per week : (10 votes)
    7 %
    about once a week : (12 votes)
    9 %
    once every couple weeks : (21 votes)
    15 %
    maybe once a month : (35 votes)
    25 %
    couple times per year : (52 votes)
    37 %
    we've never fought : (11 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 2
    2571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Hmm, we’re at 3 years and let me tell you, the level of fighting has gone down the longer we’re together… LOL  🙂  We’ve had periods where we’ve been stressed and bicker and pick at each other a lot, but overall we’re good and maybe have a blowout once a month?  (I’m not telling you what time of the month, either ;))

    Post # 3
    8387 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    When my husband and I first got together, we fought a lot more than we do now, mostly about boundaries with his mother.  Since it was very obvious what the issue was, we were able to resolve it.  We rarely fight now, maybe once or twice a year, and we’ve been together for 6 years.

    Post # 4
    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We’ve only been together about 4 months but we havent fought…yet

    Post # 5
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We have been together almost 7 years (in May) and we rarely fight. He is very relaxed and it takes a lot for him to get worked up/mad. Where I am hot headed and sometimes I just want a good fight haha When we do fight its for a short time and its usually for something insignificant and I usually start it lol

    Post # 6
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We’ve been together 6 years, living together for 4. We fight maybe a couple times a year, but it’s mainly when we are stressed with work or whatever the case. The first year we were living together, we fought quite a bit [I’m not a neat freak, but I like things clean, he’s super messy]. So we had alot of issues home-wise to work out. We never really fight about anything big, we agree about all of the things that matter.

    Post # 7
    2115 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Have a real, blowout fight? Almost never. Maybe once a year, now. Little arguments? Every now and then…we disagree, we agree to disagree (or one of us realizes we were wrong/weren’t being fair), apologize, and then it’s over. When we first started dating, we fought ALL THE TIME. We were in college, we were drinking a lot, so that definitely had a LOT to do with it. We’ve been together almost 6 years.

    Post # 8
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We have been together 3 years (married for 1 year) but we have only lived together for 2 mos.  We have “fights” once a month but these don’t last long.  We’ve only had 1 full blown argument where we didn’t talk for a day or two. 

    Post # 12
    5248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We have been together almost 4 years and have lived together for 3 years. We rarely fight but when we do watch out!!!!! We are both stubborn as hell!! the good thing is that we are not angry at each other for long and we make up fairly easily. Most of our fights are about really dumb things becaues we are both control freaks and want things done our own way loll I would say we argue a few times a month but never anything serious

    Post # 9
    1762 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’ve been with my FI for three years. In that time, I think we have had less than ten arguments? I’m not sure exactly, but it hasn’t been many. We get along really well, more and more everyday. Like an above poster mentioned, the frequency has definitely gone down. I don’t know what there is really to fight about now lol. Luckily the times when we have fought, we don’t stay upset long. Usually everything is resolved and back to “normal” less than a day later 🙂

    Post # 10
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Real fights- like maybe 2 total in our 2 year relationships. 

    You are bothering me like crazy right now holy crap 5 minute arguements, maybe every 2-3 weeks. 

    Post # 11
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Full on, voices raised, tear-inducing fight? Once a year-ish, on average. We went through a period this past fall where our communication was really breaking down. We had 2 fights in 2 weeks. That was rough. We’ve been together for 5 years, living together for 4 of them. We definitely had the most fights in the first 8 months of our relationship. We each had a lot of baggage to work through. Once we did, things got a lot smoother.

    Post # 13
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    A couple months over 4 years together, living together for over 3, fights only a couple times per year. Mostly we’ll just have an annoyed “ugh, whatever.” moment and go into separate rooms for a few hours, that happens every month I’d guess.

    Post # 14
    1437 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    The biggest fight we ever had lead to us breaking up for two months about a year and a half into our relationship. I was devastated and we had ended the relationship permanently – there was no intention of getting back together. Obviously, we did end up getting back together. Since then we haven’t had a single fight. The reason being that we talk about EVERYTHING now…instead of letting it get to the point where it’s going to blow up in our faces. I’d say we get along pretty extraordinarily, though, and we know each other’s wants and needs well enough at this point to anticipate them.

    Post # 17
    1926 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would say like REAL fights… about once a month or so. We have disagreements and misunderstandings, but not a ton of REAL fights. We have been together 9 years.

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