Post # 1
I feel kind of weird posting this question. I know sex is a matter easily spoken about by many but because its related to my own personal life, I feel weird. I wanted to know what was the normal amount of times a couple usually have sex a week, because mine ranges. One week could be about 4 times, another time can be once or twice. We both work… and so during the week, I am SOOO exausted!! I feel so bad because were both so young– hes 26 and im 24– I was also a virgin before we got married and in my head Im thinking we should be doing it a lot more often– so now I feel like a bad wife, lol or something is probably wrong with me lol.
Post # 3
Ours ranges too, sometimes just once or twice and sometimes every day. It depends on work and other things going on. I hate late night sex so I’m rarely in the mood at night. I like the afternoon better, but we both work during the day.
Post # 4
We are usually every other day.
Post # 5
Usually every day, except that time of month…but resort to other pleasurable means.
Post # 6
I feel like a bad wife too. Was a virgin like you… DH waited a few years while we dated. Our frequency differs depending on what’s going on. He has 2 boys that are with us full-time and take up a lot of time and energy. Adjusting to being a newlywed and stepmom… try to make time because he’s a good, hardworking guy!
Post # 7
I’d suggest having a conversation with your husband. Communicating about frequency and quality of your intimate life will go a long way. My guess is that he’s perfectly happy with 4x a week ;), and if he isn’t, you can talk about it and figure out what frequency you both are ok with. Then you won’t feel guilty! 🙂 A good time to talk about it is after…when you’re snuggled up and happy.
We’re 2x a week and happy with it. We’re also both in our 30s.
Post # 8
Ours varies as well, so many outside influences (work, kids, etc). But I’m very conscious about not letting it go to long, sex is important!
Post # 9
We usually have sex every other day except for that time of the month. But of course it varies with how busy we are and how exhausted we are.
Post # 10
I don’t know what one would consider “normal” really. As I go further along in my pregnancy, I am off put by it as I feel like a huge cow, so now probably three times a week. Earlier in the pregnancy and before, it was nearly everyday, sometimes twice a day…
Background: We have been together over 5 years. We were not virgins.
Post # 11
every two days exvept when his into a game. then it might be a week or two.
Post # 12
Don’t feel bad! I think you will see that answers to this question are really really variable. In my case we are both 27, he works part time and goes to school full time and has an hour commute, while I work full time and go to school part time and have a half hour commute. Sometimes we only have sex maybe once a month – we both have a lot of schoolwork, work hours don’t line up, stress gets to us and we need alone time/down time, or one wants it and the other doesn’t. For us right now if we have sex once a week, that’s a lot! I’m also on hormonal BC which doesn’t do great things for my sex drive. But while we both wish we had sex a bit more often, we are both really happy with each other and the relationship – we know it’s something that will work itself out.
So (1) four times a week sounds like a ton to me : ) and (2) just look at how much you are thinking about this – you’re showing concern for your partner’s needs and the health of your relationship. I for sure don’t think you are a bad wife and I bet your partner doesn’t either : ) Best wishes to you both!
Post # 13
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It depends on how much we have going on but it usually ranges from 1-4
Post # 14
Some weeks 3-4 times, other times we may go for a week or so with nothing. Either way, I know we’re both happy and ok with the amount.
There’s really no “magic number” that makes a healthy amount of sex in your relationship….it’s truly whatever satisfies you and your DH. Don’t stick to a number, stick to the feelings.
Post # 15
@MadTownGirl: There’s really no “magic number” that makes a healthy amount of sex in your relationship….it’s truly whatever satisfies you and your DH. Don’t stick to a number, stick to the feelings.
That is so true!!!
I started tracking our frequency once I got an app to track my cycle. Turns out, it’s only 2 or 3 times a week, and sometime 2 weeks in between. That said, I never, ever turn him down when he does the things that let me know he’s in the mood. There are times I’ll try to initiate and he turns me down. I don’t like that feeling of rejection, so I don’t initiate as often anymore but I always make sure I have nice, matching lingerie, we both keep ourselves slim and attractive, and we are always touching each other affectionately, etc. If he’s happy with the quantity, and I’m happy, then that’s all that matters. It’s when someone has a lot of sexual frustration, or gets more attention from strangers than their partner that people start to feel unsatisfied.
Post # 16
Once or twice a week. We both have fairly low sex drives and this works for us.