- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
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Today my DH called and asked his mom a question and from what I could hear on the other side of the phone she got really mean and blew up at him.
After the phone call he said that she was really angry because he doesn’t call his grandma enough and that “means he doesn’t care about her.”
He was really upset- to the point of tears forming in his eyes. I rarely ever see this guy cry. Maybe twice in our three year relationship (once when his other grandma died and once after a really long frustrating fight). At this point I was pretty angry at his mom for doing this. He calls his grandma once a week and chats. We would visit but we live 8 hours away.
He called his mom back after he calmed down and asked why she treated him like this. She said now that his grandma is dying (I’ll get back to this) he should really be calling every day to check in and didn’t bother apologizing for treating him like crap.
Now, his grandma is NOT dying. She recently moved into a nursing home but that is because she fell a few weeks ago. The doctor said that she should have plenty of years left but that it’s just best that she is not left alone.
I understand that moving into a nursing home is almost never a good experience but at the same time I don’t think he needs to call her everyday.
How often do you call parents/grandparents that are in a nursing home? He’s pretty torn up right now because his mom suggested that he doesn’t care and I’m trying to tell him that once a week is okay. We also send her cards and notes every so often.