Post # 1
I haven’t had many moments being the center of attention with everyone oohing and aahing over me and asking a ton of questions about the wedding, so I’m wondering how common that is. People congratulated us when we got engaged last summer, and there was this one time when we announced it to a bunch of friends at dinner and everyone was really excited. But other than that, I don’t feel any different and people don’t ask about the wedding too much. So I don’t feel like “The Bride” but rather just like my regular self. Am I the only one or is this common?
PS I’m not super upset about it or anything, just curious, because it seems like a lot of girls just get a lot of attention and get asked about the wedding all the time when they’re engaged.
Post # 3
I feel like the bride alot. My family asks about the wedding so much that FI feels like it’s all we ever talk about when we’re with my family. His family isn’t as interested as mine.. but they aren’t as loving either. Not that people who don’t ask engaged family memebrs about their upcoming wedding are instantly not loving, but they just don’t talk and seem to be as close as my family is.
so.. its ok!
Post # 4
I know what you mean, we were engaged last Christmas and everyone was aalll about it asking questions everyday and wanting to see the ring blah blah, but it’s calmed down. I’m kind of glad.. I don’t like a big fuss lol I don’t know how I’m going to be at the wedding . BUT I have noticed now that we’ve got about 4 months to go.. it’s starting up again!
Post # 5
I felt like The Bride for the first time at our engagement party. It was pretty nice to be the center of attention and to know everyone was there for us! Still, I don’t think I’ll feel it really until our wedding day. When people talk wedding plans with me, I don’t feel that bridal… just overworked!
Post # 6
I don’t feel like “The Bride” very often. The wedding comes up at family events and when I talk to my close friends, but other than that, I feel like my same self. I’m really busy with my doctorate program though, so I’m completely fine with my life not revolving around wedding planning/ talk! I need to pass my classes so I can (eventually) graduate!
Post # 7
I felt like the bride at my shower. My bridesmaids are darling!
Post # 8
So far the only times were when we first got engaged and when I went dress shopping. Otherwise, not really! My mom asks me a lot about wedding stuff, but not in a “ooh you’re the bride, it’s going to be so special!” type of way. More like, “You have to make decisions about these things!” sort of way, lol.
Post # 9
I know exactly how you feel!!! I haven’t really felt like ‘the bride’ much at all!!
I think it’s because we are having a long-ish engagement (engaged Aug ’09, wedding Oct ’10) so there is a lot of time in between for it to settle in vs. a whirlwind 6 months planning time frame – you know?
Post # 10
Honestly, I don’t think I felt like a bride at all up until the wedding. I wasn’t completely immersed in planning because I was busy with work. We had a long engagement so a lot of our friends weren’t really excited for us after a while.
Post # 11
Not a ton of people really ask about the wedding, probably because we have been engaged for so long.
I felt really bridal for the first time post engagement highs, when I was trying on dresses at the bridal shop. And spent a lot of time prancing around in MY dress.
Post # 12
aside from the initial engagement, i haven’t had unexpected OOH’s and AAH’s cuz i see the same people all the time! co-workers, family, FI, etc.
i do get questions about wedding planning and when i grab coffee with a friend i haven’t seen for a while it’s definitely a gab session catching them about life.
during Christmas, we saw all of FI’s side of the extended family and that was a mini repeat of the initial engagement… and we also had an ugly Christmas sweater party at our house and had a lot of friends stop by…
aside from the holidays though, our days are usually just the norm, except i have this huge rock that i get to look at shine all day! 😉
Post # 13
Right off the bat people were excited, and occassionally my boss will ask about it, but I don’t really get any special attention anymore (boo. I like attention, anyway I can get it!!).
Because we live in a different state then both of our families, I think by the time we got home to see everyone months after getting engaged, they’d all forgetten…no one really mentioned it or wanted to see my ring or asked any questions. Oh well!
Post # 14
I often feel like a bride – most people in my life are very excited about the wedding and are often asking questions. I have even had strangers comment on my ring saying “Oh your engaged – your ring is gorgeous” etc.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
nah–i don’t get that feeling too often. even when we got engaged, it was pretty low-key. i waited to tell most people about the engagement. i don’t talk about wedding planning with my friends, only with my sister–even my mom isn’t involved! but maybe as the wedding gets closer i’ll start to feel “like a bride” more, as opposed to a stressed out event planner…