- Mrs. Bee
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
Since this is totally anonymous, tell us!
Since this is totally anonymous, tell us!
I can’t really decide how to answer. What really is a "fight," ya know? We’ve had very few knock-down drag-outs, but we both *enjoy* bickering. Especially if one of us is stressed, cause we can yell about something stupid (without saying anything hurtful!), and just get out some feeling. Like he tells me to hit him when I’m really stressed, cause I can’t hit hard enough to hurt him, and I feel better. So I guess a couple times a year?
I like the timing on this, I just read the part of one of the marriage books about fighting. Fighting is good, and healthy, but has to be done right! Made me feel better that we do occasionally fight. I was right in thinking it wasn’t bad!
I guess you can define it as how you define a fight. It’s different for everyone!
We’ve been together for 6 1/2 years, and I can remember maybe three times that we’ve gotten into a real arguement. Every once in awhile we bicker, but we make up in less than 10 minutes usually.
We are still learning how to fight with each other. He has a rough sense of humor and I get my feelings hurt to easily. I’m working on this, because I really love his sense of humor… until I get crabby or sleepy… haha. Rarely to we fight for any reason. Just bickering and trying to learn. We wanted to do couples counseling so we could learn to fight and communicate better, but it’s pretty expensive. I wish we could afford it!! We will have the pre-cana and such through the Church soon so hopefully we will learn a lot from this.
We never fight. We never even "bicker." Sometimes, I worry that’s not normal!! (But I think it’s because we’re both total intellectuals who tend to work out the logic of an issue, rather than getting emotionally invested….)
I remember in the beginning of my relationship how weird it was that we didn’t get into fights or arguments over something silly. Everyone always tells you that fighting is part of a healthy relationship, and it made me think that something was wrong with mine. Now I don’t think there’s anything wrong. We just solve our problems in a different way than most.
We bicker all the time—but they aren’t really fights. We are both strong, opinionated personalities and bitch back and forth…But actual fights and arguments that last happen very rarely.
We have our bad little moments maybe once a week where one of us gets in a mood. But in terms of big fights, probably 6/7 times a year. That’s normal, right? Oh who cares. 😉
We hardly have a REAL yelling match, like once in a blue moon…but we irritate each other now and then. It only lasts a couple of hours at most though.
We’ve had one disagreement. Neither raised voices. It wasn’t even a valid disagreement. We prefer to discuss things and we usually end up being on the same page.
I refuse to be with somebody who yells as my xh would yell and shout all the time, and that is not me. T is kind, intelligent, and can express himself wisely without the need for drama and yelling.
We hardly ever have huge knock down dragouts…but I can remember a few and they were usually caused by my being totally inebriated and over reacting about stupid stuff. Then the morning after I feel like a huge ass. Haha so now vodka is off limits to me, he says it makes me mean. I’m the type of person who hates confrontation so if I have a problem I usually keep it to myself and let it fester until I can’t contain it anymore. When that happens I usually end up so mad that I start crying…which makes me more mad so I cry more. Crazy, I know. Generally the majority of our bickering is done in bed lol. He’ll do little things that irritate the crap out of me and naturally, thinks it’s hilarious. So, I in turn tend to turn quite nasty. And I’m quite the monster when I first wake up which leads to some not so nice things being said on part. I’m really trying to work on it.
we never fight either, and i’m also with tulip in thinking that we’re weird in that way, especially when married friends around us bicker all.the.time.!
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