How often do you see/talk to your parents?

posted 1 year ago in Family
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Sugar Beekeeper

I’m closer to my mom than my dad. We’re pretty close.

I see my mom once every 1-2 weeks.

We take turns visiting each other. We usually meet at a restaurant closer to one of us.

My husband usually comes unless he is out of town or we are just shopping/doing girl stuff.

I only really talk to my mom on the phone to make plans. I talk to my dad about once a month, usually over email.

My mom lives 15 minutes away. My dad lives 4 states away.

I’m 29.

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Honey bee

Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents? Yes, I would say so

-How often do you see them? Normally only a few times a month.

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly? Normally with my mom we do both but with my dad I come to him or we see each other at family gatherings.

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come? Normally my DH comes along, same with his parents. If he goes I go.

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone? Mom- twice a week. Dad- every other maybe.

-How far away are they from you? 10-15 mins.

-And finally, how old are you? I’m 29

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Sugar bee

-No, my dad is dead and my mom is crazy. She is more focused on her drunk boyfriend then her daughters.

 

-I see my mother maybe 6 times a year.

-I have to go see her or we’ll see each other at my sisters house. She never comes to see me.

-No, my husband can’t stand her because of how she treats me.

-Maybe 20 times a year.

-She lives 10 minutes from my house.

-I’m 23.

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Busy Beekeeper

-Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents? Yes, very close

-How often do you see them? Once a week on average but they only live 20 minutes away so it is easier

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly? Split evenly.

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come? He always comes

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone? My dad, hardly, but my mom has given me a good morning text every weekday morning for the last 6 years

-How far away are they from you? 20 minutes

-And finally, how old are you? 24

 

As for my in laws, DH talks to them maybe twice a week on the phone. They live an hour away, but we always have to go there. His dad says it is unnecessary for them to come to us until we have kids becuase that’s the way it is suppose to be. DH and his dad are not close and his mom is super clingy. His mom wishes were would visit more often, but when we ask her to come to out place she never does.

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Helper bee

-Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents? Yes, although I don’t usually tell everything to my mother (for my own sanity), I feel very close to her and I can just tell her everything and the same thing goes with my dad. We have a very close relationship.

-How often do you see them? It depends. If I’m super busy with school and work, I usually don’t see them for months, but talk to them often. I usually see them about once a month on average. 

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly? I usually visit them, but they come sometimes too. When I visit them, I see my in-laws as well so it’s usually us traveling. 

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come? My husband comes with me to visit my parets 99% of the time and we stay at my parent’s house every time. 

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone? Every other day or at least once a week. 

-How far away are they from you? It’s a 2 hour drive from here. 

-And finally, how old are you? I’m 25 :)

 

EDIT: YES! My parents love my SO

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Helper bee

-Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents? YES! I’m very close with my parents. My mom is my bff

-How often do you see them? 4 times a year

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly? We go to each other’s once a year and then we normally take our big vacations with my parents.

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come? DH ALWAYS comes

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone? daily

-How far away are they from you? 2500 miles

-And finally, how old are you? 28

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Bumble bee

Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents? Yes

-How often do you see them? Maybe 3-4 times per year.

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly? I normally visit.  My father died 7 years ago and my mother won’t drive where I live.  She lives in a tiny town and I live in the Baltimore-metro area.

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come? He normally goes. 

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone? 4-5 times/week

-How far away are they from you? 6-7 hours

-And finally, how old are you? 44

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Helper bee

-Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents? I don’t think we’re close, I don’t feel close to them.

-How often do you see them? Once a year, I can’t stand how they live and it makes me severely depressed.

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly? I always have to go see them. If they were to come see me, they’d be bringing the dog, my sister and her baby. I don’t have the space or the patience and they would never ever stay in a hotel.

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come? He has to come, otherwise I wouldn’t go.

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone? I try to talk to my mom once a week but if I didn’t talk to her for months at a time it wouldn’t phase me.

-How far away are they from you? 3.5-4 hours depending on who’s driving.

-And finally, how old are you? 26

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Buzzing bee

-Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents? Yes very much so.

-How often do you see them?  Every other day?

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly? Split evenly. 

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come? Almost never goes to see them with me. He is a home body. 

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone? Almost every day or every other day.

-How far away are they from you? They are each a mile away from us. (My parents are divorced so I see my dad & step mom more then my real mom)

-And finally, how old are you? 20 almost 21. (3 more months lol)

 

People may think it is really weird how much I talk/see my parents. To me its normal. I was raised in a very tight knit family. My family are my friends. I don’t go hang out with other people from high school or work. My siblings have always been who I hang out with and both of them live at my parents house. Plus I have the first grandchild so we go over there to visit alot.

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Busy bee

-Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents? Yes, I get along with my parents.  I enjoy spending time with them.  And we don’t argue or fight often.

-How often do you see them? Probably once a week, more right now as I am so close to my wedding.  Sometimes more sometimes less.

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly? Evenly.  Though in the summer I work for them in a seasonaly family business for extra money and park at their house and also park there to go to the beach so that time of year I am more often going to their house.  We have them over for dinner from time to time.  And my mom and I run errands together.

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come? Depends on what I/we are doing.  Dinner or a family party?  He is there.  Work or beach?  Depends on schedules.   He also goes over there to work on his scooter in my dad’s shed/work shop without me.

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone? Probably a few times a week and send texts.  It depends on what is happening in our lives.  I also sometimes don’t talk to them for a week or two.

-How far away are they from you?  5 minutes give or take in a car. 

ETA:  I didn’t copy the age question.  I am 32.

I used to live on the west coast and they were on the east coast.  In that situation I would come home once or twice a year and they would visit once or twice.  I would speak to them on the phone about once or twice a week.  I also lived with my brother during part of this time so we both would speak with our parents.  At that time I was not dating anyone so that question doesn’t apply.

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Sugar bee

Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents? YES! They are my best friends.

-How often do you see them? About once a week.

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly? I try to go see them but sometimes it’s just split. They may stop over when they are on their way to run errands or I will stop by their house for Sunday dinner.

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come? He is almost always with me. It’s rare when he isn’t. They want to see him as bad as they want to see me. lol 

-Do they like/love your SO/FI/marriage partner? They love him!

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone? I speak with my mom everyday (I have the cell phone bill to show it!) mainly when I’m driving home from work since I have a super long commute. I talk to dad about once a week. He works a lot.

-How far away are they from you? 10 minutes.

-And finally, how old are you? 30

I’m also an only child. 

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Sugar bee

@Creiddylad:

-Do you have a close/pleasant relationship with your parents?
Yes, very. 

-How often do you see them?
Not enough. We try to get together every month. 

-Do you always visit them, do they always come to you, or is it split more or less evenly?
I go to them more.  

-When you visit them, does your SO/FI/marriage partner always come? Almost never come?
He almost always comes. The only time he didn’t come was last THNXGVNG because he wanted us to spend some quality time together.  

-How often do you talk to your parents on the phone?
2-3 times a day.  

-How far away are they from you?
6 hours by car. 45 mins by plane.  

-And finally, how old are you?
24. 

 

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Honey bee

Both of our parents are divorced. 

My mom: We live 5 minutes from her. We actually see her daily most of the time one way or another. I have one sister who is studying abroad right now and we enjoy giving my mother company so she doesn’t have to be alone at night (especially since she does so much for us). I have a very close relationship with my mom (though she’s damn annoying sometimes), and my husband has developed one too. We definitely do not go over to see her every night, but we work at the same school, so sometimes we see each other during the day, or my husband runs over there to pick up/drop something off and he sees her on a day I don’t. All around, it’s just a very close relationship and we are happy with that. 

My dad: I’ve had an on/off close relationship with him. I see him a few times a month. He lives about 30 minutes away from us. Sometimes we get together on Sundays, sometimes we go for dinner during the week, and occasionally he comes to us on a Friday night. I would say he mostly comes to our neck of the woods, but there are some days that we drive down to him. He is potentially moving out of state sometime this year so I know now he feels a push to spend a lot more time with us before he moves and doesn’t have the option of seeing us so much anymore. 

All in all, we definitely have a much closer relationship with my side of the family as a couple. 

His mom: Up until just last week his mom lived 4 hours away from us by car. She is originally from the same state where my husband grew up, but moved to our state after the divorce. I wouldn’t say we drove up to see her very often. I think we went twice in the summer for the weekend, and winter break last year. She came a little more often before the wedding for pre-wedding events, like the shower, but she wasn’t really around so much before the wedding. Although we did invite her to our home over the summer so she could see our apartment, she did not end up coming until Thanksgiving, which was really nice for my husband. We went up last week right before she moved, and now that she’s living about 8 hours drive from us I can’t see us getting together as regularly anymore. We will probably not see her again until July, which is when she is tentatively planning to get married. 

His dad: His dad is living in the state where my husband grew up, and to be honest, we really don’t regularly see him. Before my husband moved down here when we got married, he lived an hour drive frim his dad, so he actually did see him a lot. When I would go visit him, we also used to spend a lot of time with his dad. But that was more circumstantial and the last time we saw him was the weekend after our wedding. We certainly can’t afford plane tickets right now, and I don’t think his father would come down. He got re-married on Labor Day weekend and unfortunately with work my husband and I were not able to attend. We’re hoping to get some inexpensive fares for June so we can attend my sister in law’s high school graduation. After that, we have no plans set to see him. 

My husband and I are TTC this summer, and I’ll be interested to see which of our family members come when the baby is born. For sure my mom and dad (and sister), most likely his mom, but I wonder about his dad and any of his siblings. 

ETA: We have a close relationship with my mom, a warm relationship wtih my dad (if that makes sense), a lukewarm relationship with his mom and a somewhat cold relationship with his dad. I am 22 and my husband is 25. I speak to my mom on the phone casually and often because we see each other all the time, and sometimes it’s like, “Do you want to come for dinner tonight, what should I make?” kind of conversations. We usually don’t spend hours on the phone because if I have something I want to discuss, I just do it in person. I speak to my dad every single Friday, without my husband, usually for 5-15 minutes. My husband speaks to both of his parents every Friday and usually without me. I have spoken with my mother in law on the phone before, but quite rarely. I usually don’t speak on the phone with my father in law, but his wife texts both my husband and I every Friday before the weekend. 

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