How often should I remind a bridesmaid to order her dress. ..

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

AndysCraftsNmore:  Don’t remind them. She didn’t forget, she probably doesn’t have the money right now. Also, David’s puts fake pressure on brides to order dresses within certain time frames because it affects their sales goals. A bride in a wedding I’m in threw a fit wanting me to order a dress during the holidays with less than a week’s notice because they told her the dress was older and would get “discontinued” soon. Total lie. The dress was ordered in feb and came in two weeks later. Honestly, had I know that, I would have waited much longer and the dress could have fit better. (I’m pregnant). 

Really though, just let it go. She’ll order it. And if she doesn’t then she’s not a BM anymore. 

Post # 4
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t know why she should let it go. She’s the bride, this bridesmaid agreed to a date, it should have been ordered already. 

ask her if she ordered it and when she says no, just say that it’s stressing you out because she has not ordered it yet and would she please order it because you don’t want the dress to get discontinued before she had a chance to. 

Post # 6
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

FoxyBride14:  because IMO, the bridesmaid is an adult. If she said she’d do it, she will. Yeah, the BM should have spoken up and said that it wasn’t going to happen, but we also don’t know if she tried and the bride wouldn’t hear it. Again, even in the worst case scenario and the girl doesn’t get the dress in time, it just means that she’s not a bridesmaid anymore.  In the end, for me, it’s the fact that no one is really going to forget to order the dress. So they don’t need a reminder. AndysCraftsNmore:  With the new WB we can’t see when your wedding is. How far out are you? If the date isn’t for more than 3 months, then you should let her order it on her own time.

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Post # 5
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Yeah, I would definitly be asking her why she hasn’t ordered it yet. If its money or she is too busy maybe you can offer to do it for her and get paid back. It would stress me out to have one outstanding!!

Post # 7
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think if I were a BM, having the bride remind me over and over (like once a week or more) would make me upset.  But then again, the lady at DB advised getting the dress in Feb. or March, and regardless of business/ whatever other considerations, I’d follow her advice if you definitely know you want the dress and the other girls already have it.  I would leave your BM alone until maybe the last weekend of March, and at that point, you can blame someone else for bothering your BM about it (the store).

If it makes you feel better, call the store and ask if the third dress has been ordered–that’s what I did when I had a girl lagging, and it made me feel better without driving her nuts!

Post # 8
588 posts
Busy bee

AndysCraftsNmore:  If they said to order in February/March, I wouldn’t say anything until the last week in March, and then just a casual, “Hey, did you have a chance to order your dress for my wedding yet?”. Being reminded over and over would be annoying for most people.  I assume she’s an adult BM, so she can handle it herself. It’s her responsibility to get the dress, not yours. Let her handle it.

Post # 9
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

I asked all my girls to get thier dresses by a certain day. I also told them that I would remind them one week before and two days before.<br />To me, getting a reminder doesn’t insult me. I forget things sometimes. Shrug.<br /><br />You could just say something like, “Hey, so and so both have thier dresses ordered and since I haven’t heard from you, I wanted to see ___ was a good deadline for you, or if you needed more time. When do you think you will be ordering your dress?”<br /><br />Don’t be scarred to send a reminder 🙂

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