Post # 1
I see it a lot on the Bee, people either saying they entertain a lot or saying they don’t ever have people over. I feel like DH and I entertain a good amount, at least once a week for family stuff and once a month or so we will have friends over for dinner and drinks. I would say this is a “normal” amount of hosting, but am curious how this stacks up to everyone else!
We also have guests visit (mostly in the form of my out of town family and friends) 2-3 times per year. Most of these visits range from a day or so to a week.
Post # 3
Almost never. We try to do a BBQ once a year at our house, but we just end up too busy trying to do updates and maintenance whenever the weather is nice.
Post # 4
FI and I moved an hour away from most of our family and friends, so not often. We have friends over maybe once a month, and we’ve had siblings or other family members stay the night a handful of times if we’ve been drinking or if they need to be in the area for work/school.
All of our big family events are held in our hometown, which is nice… Entertaining stresses me out, I’d really rather keep it to a minimum.
Post # 5
We live in a tiny flat for the moment, not big enough for us, let alone entertaining! Having said that, DH loves to cook and we do have people over about once a month, they know it will be a bit of a squash as most people are in the same position in Paris. I’m looking forward to our move and future house. I’d love to live closer to my family and would def have them over more if they were in the same country.
Post # 6
Rarely, and I’m glad of it. A couple of times a month dh’s best friend stays the night but usually he’s out drinking and he stays here and I’m their taxi, which I’m OK with but I don’t consider him entertaining. We do a few regularly scheduled yearly parties and that’s it. We’ve had our house designed around our comfort and how we live vs entertaining. Lordy, I don’t want to encourage any more entertaining than we have to do.
Post # 7
I have a small apt and I do most of the family parties. There are 6 in my immediate family plus inlaws & kiddies. My mom & sister’s houses are always messy and my brother’s wife isn’t into it. A few times a year & hopefully more when we buy a house.
Post # 8
We have people over for beer and pizza every Sunday to watch football. I’ve yet to actually “host” a get together.
Post # 9
We hosted people like once a month when we lived in Vermont, but not at all since we’ve moved to Massachusetts!
Post # 10
Wow! Judging by the poll results we are definitely in the minority on this one!
Post # 11
@Mrs_Amanda: probably ever couple of months. We go to my in laws about once a month for family dinner but we see them at least once a week just to say hi.
Its a lot of work to host and expensive. We had a new years eve party and DH and I decided no more big parties. Dinner with family and close friends yes, but no more biggg parties lol
Post # 12
I try to limit it to once per quarter or so. In college and law school I was pretty much the only one of my friends to have their own place and so people thought of my house as a retreat. I really, really hated that. Now, because of my job I tend to live in far-flung and exotic places…destinations, if you will. And people assume that they have a standing invitation because I live someplace they’ve always wanted to visit. It is extremely common for someone (even if we’re not particularly close) to call and tell me, “hey, I’m thinking about coming to Italy/Jamaica/Brazil/Bolivia. I can stay with you right?” and what they really mean is: you’ll pick me up from the airport, right? And you’ll ensure that I never encounter any incidental expenses because I’ll eat at your house everyday and borrow your car while you’re at work, right? And you’ll babysit and translate for me the entire time right?
I enjoy entertaining, but I like entertaining because I’m in the mood to do so. Not because people feel entitled to be all up in my house. Also, and most importantly, I’m a newlywed. I am not the least bit interested in pausing or otherwise modifying my perpetual butt-nekkid sex fest for anyone.
Post # 13
We do about once a month with close friends, and around the holidays we had family over twice. I don’t mind it too much, but my house still needs a lot of DIY work and I feel like a slob when people see areas that are still being renovated.
Post # 14
Not at all! We have friends over for drinks once every so often but its not much ‘hosting’.. more so putting out some snacks/ making sure we have ice.
We recently renovated our kitchen, so I’m more inclined now.
Post # 15
Wow, I didn’t realize how out of the norm we are! We have a weekly themed potluck dinner party/movie night with a core group of friends, and on top of that we usually host a couple holidays for our friends in the area (almost all of us are transplants to the area, so we don’t always get to travel to see our families). We usually do a small combined Thanksgiving/Christmas dinner and an Easter dinner, and since we bought our house we’ve added a 4th of July event and a Christmas cookie exchange.
I guess it seems like a lot written out like that, but our close friends in the area have become like extended family, so we all love it 🙂
Post # 16
We have a small apartment and few friends and are pretty much super homebodies – we have hosted, but it’s always been small! Two years ago, we hosted an Oscars party (3 guests + the 2 of us), and this year, we hosted NYE (2 guests + the 2 of us). I have to say, I loooooved getting to host NYE but would really only be up to something like that a couple more times per year max, with only a few extra guests. In my vote I didn’t count the maybe once or twice a year we have a couple people over for beer/pizza/movie/games night as it’s so informal and usually spur-of-the-moment.