(Closed) “How OLD are you?”

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I will be 25 and my FI a week from 26 at our wedding and you would not beleive how many people asked me if I was when we got engaged.  As in well you must have some other reason to get married then you are of a perfectly normal age and are in love. This I felt had to do with people viewing me as young and well some people are just rude!

Post # 4
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Haha im right there with you. Im 24, and FH is 25 (he will turn 26 on our honeymoon!) but we both still look like we are 18..haha which will truely be a benefit as we get older. anyway, i get that all the time. i dont take offense to it because i know im where im supposed to be and this is the right person and the right time. 🙂 try not to let it bother you..plant a smile on your face and nod your head.

Post # 5
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611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m 25, FI is 24. I don’t usually get asked how old I am when I’m doing wedding stuff, except when I was paying the deposit for the venue. I used my school e-mail which is a local univeristy, and the coordinator asked if I was a student. I felt a little bad when I was like “no I’m a faculty member” She was like wow you look so young, which is true even students think I’m a student. Frown

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just turned 23, and no word of a lie my neighbour gave me the “BWAAAAAAAAAAA? YOU’RE HOW OLD?!?!” just the other day. Rubs me the wrong way every time someone thinks they can judge my life situation/maturity based on my age.

My partner is tunring 25 next month and is often mistaken for 28-30, which just exacerbates the whole “BWAAAA?!?!” reaction, because then they think I’m a decade younger than my partner, which while I have no issue with (age differences in relationships) but it often doesn’t go over well with the people in this community. Apparently.

My partner was however told he was an ‘epic individual’ simply because the person who said it thought he was 30 with a 19 year old ‘wife.’

I hate how there are double standards for men & women, because were it me being referenced in the above ‘epic’ situation, it would be quite the opposite reaction I am sure.

Post # 7
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89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just say ‘Old enough’. How rude! It’s none of their business.

Post # 8
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I turned 24 just before my wedding. I had the age issue come up once or twice but I really didn’t let it bother me. It was mostly from people who didn’t know me or DH really well. 

Post # 9
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1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

21, will be 22 in March! 

FI is 23 and will turn 24 the day before the wedding!

Post # 10
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ahh, just brush it off ejh08278, it’s not like you’re 16. I am 24 and he is 25. But I can relate to the constant questions and comments about how old and this an that. I try and shrug it off.

The one I hate the most is everyone saying “DON’T DO IT! DON’T GET MARRIED!! YOU’LL BE SORRY”

How rude is that right? We have lived together since the first couple weeks and will have been together almost 7 years by the time we get married.  We have a house and and animals. We practically already are married and nothing will change after we get married except my last name. That is what is RUDE to me.

Happy Planning! Shrug it off girl! :o)

Post # 11
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2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Oh I had to giggle at this one.  I got the same question…Well, the lady finally asked after she “lectured” me for about 5 minutes about how I was too young to get married and that I needed to experience life, blah blah blah…The kicker?  I was 28 when I got married…not exactly a super young age to get married at. LOL

Post # 12
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We’re both 29, and we got the other end of the spectrum. We were together almost 5 years before he proposed and people who barely knew me and had never met him told me to leave him all the time. People who knew us were fine, but acquaintances & strangers just couldn’t understand.

People just don’t think about boundaries sometimes. We also get the baby questions constantly. Best was from our waiter (!) during our 5th anniversary dinner. Guy was awesome, but seriously? You want to talk to me about my eggs while we’re eating?

Oh, and yeah, he never got the marriage questions. He does get the baby questions now.

Post # 13
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

You should only respond “Old enough to get married” and leave it at that. If they persist, keep repeating yourself.

Post # 14
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’ll be 28th this November…getting scary, lol!

Post # 15
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2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yepp. It’s funny.. I’m 24 but I feel so OLD!! I have a masters and I’ve been living on my own (with my FI) since I was 20. When someone makes a comment about how young I am (usually co-workers) I tell them that we’ve been together for 5 freakin’ years and that usually shuts them up!

Post # 16
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I turned 24 a week ago and my husband will be 27 tomorrow! So we were 23 and 26 at our wedding which to me is younger than most but not so young that anyone would question it. I do get questions about how old I am though – people think Im 17 all the time!

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