Post # 1
I got ma’amed today 🙁 Made me feel super old. I don’t think I look old enough to be a ma’am and it made me all self conscious. When I was younger I was often mistaken to be way younger than I actually am but maybe that’s now a thing of the past.
So bees, how old do I look? (be honest. I can handle it)
Post # 3
@Meowkers: Was it someone from the South? He was probably just trying to be polite. You look very young, so if I were you I wouldn’t be concerned about looking old.
I’m in my mid-20s and look younger than my age, and I got “ma’am-ed” everywhere in the South.
ETA: How old do you think a “ma’am” should be?
Post # 4
@somethingaquamarine: no idea if he’s from the south. It was a sales clerk at Target. People don’t usually ma’am young people around here.
Not really sure how old a ma’am is. 40?
Post # 5
@Meowkers: how old are you?
Post # 6
FI and I think 29! We didn’t read anything…just looked at the pics…so hope we didn’t miss something.
Post # 7
@bzzzybee: I’m from Southern California too, so I’m aware that the ma’am thing is rare there.
Either way, with your amazing skin, you definitely don’t look 40. I wouldn’t be worried.
Post # 8
Your face looks quite young but your eye make-up is a bit heavy for my taste and seems to make you look older. Have you tried a more natural look?
Post # 9
Ahh hahaha . I’m sorry girl. You don’t look like a mam to me but I am terrible at guessing age. I still feel like I look 21 even though I don’t …at all lol
I can tell how old I really look when I’m in class with a bunch of students that just got out of high school 🙁
Im also from s-cali
Post # 10
Yeah I have noticed too that the heavier my make up is the older I look. I get hit on by younger guys more when I don’t have makeup on
I hope you post how old you are..now I’m dying to know haha
Post # 11
I think the sales person was just trying to be polite. He probably didn’t know what to call but just ma’am came to his mind.
When I was called madam instead of mademoiselle when I was in Paris last year, I was a little taken a back but accepted the universe that I am aging. I was 27 then.
Post # 12
Maybe he did ma’am instead of miss because he saw your wedding ring? I think a “miss” is only an unmarried youngish person. Once you are married, you are a ma’am in my book.
Post # 13
I get ma’amed all the time and I’m 22. lol.
Post # 14
@Meowkers: It wasn’t because you look “older” (you don’t). It was because he thought that that was the correct way to be extremely polite and look respectful. He didn’t realize that it would come off as an age thing.
One of my friends freaked out about the same thing a year or two ago. She actually told the cashier to not call her ma’am and lectured him about why.
Post # 15
If not the “Ma’am” then what are the young supposed to call you then when they don’t know your name? I would be more insulted if they called me “Lady” or “Woman” don’t you think?
There are so may ways to call a female
It’s hard to choose so most think they are safe with Ma’am.
Post # 16
I got ma’amed once, by a guy who couldn’t have been 5 years my junior, and even though it was a while ago it still smarts to remember it.
Miss or Ms (which is pronounced Mizz) will be fine. Madam would work, I suppose. Ma’am is totally not a “safe” choice afaic. I don’t ever have a need to call someone “Sir” (“excuse me” tends to work just fine) but if I did, it would be “Sir” and “Madam” (pronouced Mah-dim, not Mah-damn).