how old do you have to be to receive a wedding invitation?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@DiamondnLovey:  I think either way is fine but if they’d get a kick out of receiving their own it’s a nice gesture, I know mine would! I think teens at that age love being treated as a bit more grown up 🙂

Post # 5
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

You can do whatever you want 🙂

Are you asking from an etiquette perspective? If so,  I’d think that they would be included under your parent’– but I’m no Emily Post.

Post # 6
1231 posts
Bumble bee

Since they are your siblings I would send them each an invitation, if only so they have their own keepsake. 🙂

Post # 7
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@beemyname:  +1

@DiamondnLovey:  I think since they’re your siblings, they can get their own invite. Other than that I think over 18 or over 21 to get their own. Unless they’re still living with their family. No point to me in sending more than one to the same house.

Post # 8
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You could send even a three year old an invite if you wanted!  It’s your day, do it your way 🙂 If you think they’ll like it, do it!

Post # 9
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@DiamondnLovey:  I am doing special invites for kids. For example, there is this family: Mom, dad, teenagerkid1, teenagerkid2, little gir. We are inviting the parents and the little girl (because we get along with her and not with the teenager sons). So we are giving the parents an invite for 2 people, and inside it will have a smaller invite just for the girl 😀

Post # 10
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@DiamondnLovey:  I think its fine and they would probably be tickled but we did a cut off of 18 because my FI has cousins who are 15, 17, 17, 17, 18, 20, and 21 and so we needed a hardfast rule. Thats what we did for STDs and will do for invites as well. Since the three older ones don’t live at home and are techinically adults it was easier that way. I believe all three of the 17 year olds will be 18 at the wedding ironically enough so we will be giving them their own escort cards as well as the 15 year old so he doesn’t feel left out! 

Post # 11
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @DiamondnLovey:  Etiqutette Snob here… lol

The accepted rule nowadays is anyone over the age of 18 gets their own invite… traditionally it was anyone who was considered “eligible to date / marry” (generally in the 16 year old range in the Victorian era… from which a lot of the Rules of Etiquette come from)

But in all reality… as these are your Siblings the age rule doesn’t matter so much, as it is assumed you are asking for two very specific reasons…

1- To make them feel more special / included in this milestone event in your life (and in turn theirs)

2- And to bestow upon them a keepsake of that occasion

So YES you can most certainly send them their own invite.

Hope this helps,


Post # 12
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d say 18 but since they’re your siblings I say send them their own invitations – I’m sure it’ll make them feel grown up, and gives them a keepsake, as PPs have mentioned.

Post # 13
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@DiamondnLovey:  I’d send them separate invites. It makes people feel special. We had separate cards for the children within the pocketfolds we sent to a family.

Post # 15
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@HonoraryNerd:  Haha when I was sending out my save the dates, my married cousin was still living at home with her parents while she looked for a house. Her sister was there too, and their grandmother lives in the converted garage (same address). I couldn’t have fit everyone’s name on one invitation if I tried, so everyone got their own! One of my bridesmen also lives at home and his father is our officiant, so they each got their own.

Aunt and Uncle LastName
Cousin and Husband LastName
Cousin LastName and Boyfriend LastName
Granny LastName
City, State ZIP

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