Post # 1
My FI’s half-sister will be 9 years old when we get married next year. I would love for her to be a party of the wedding party, but am not sure if she should be a flower girl or junior bridesmaid. She is tiny for her age, but very smart/mature. My initial thought was that she would be a flower girl because she is the only “girl” in our families, but is she too old for that?
If she’s a junior bridesmaid, should she wear a dress in the same color as the regular bridesmaids (i’m leaning towards having them pick a dress in the same color but any style)? I don’t really care what she wears, as long as its cohesive (i.e., white/ivory if she’s a flower girl, or the same color as the bridesmaids). Unless she wore a different shade in the same color family, so she could pick out a dress she liked in her size (and budget). So many things to think about!
Post # 3
I think 9 is fine for a flower girl. I’m not sure if that’s correct etiquette-wise, but IMO, junior bridesmaids are 10-15 and anything younger can be flower girl material. (:
Post # 4
I think you should have her be a junior bridesmaid. I think it will make her feel like one of the ladies, instead of a little kid. If she’s going to be 9, then that’s probably 4th grade. I think 4th grade is a bit too old for a flower girl. That’s just my opinion, though.
Post # 5
I think she would feel better as a jr. bridesmaid. They don’t want to be thought of as a “little kid” anymore by that age, IMHO. I think she will love the jr. brideslaid title and feel more included.
Post # 6
Id ask her what she wants to be. If she wants to be flower girl id say go for it! A cordinated dress would look good and she would probably be very proud to be part of the grown ups.
Post # 7
I agree with the pp who said jr. bridesmaid. She’s getting to the age where she wants to be a lady.
Post # 8
I personally think that Flower Girl is more appropriate for a 9 year old, but then again, I am not totally sold on the idea of JR bridesmaids either. I think if she is small for her age then that is even more reason to go for flower girl. To me the cutoff is around 11-12 (or puberty whichever comes first!)
Post # 9
I think under 10 is a flower girl but it depends on the girl also. Ask her 🙂
Post # 10
i think 9 is fine, but then again im a bit bias my sister will be my flowergirl… shes 8 i just CANT picture her being able to stand still at the front of the church for the whole ceremony.
to make her feel included she will have a matching dress to the bm you can buy that with most companies, ours is through eden maids. That way she matches all the big girls, but im sure shes going to love having her own eyes on her moment being fg
Post # 11
9-10 is fine. 11+ is considered the appropriate age for a jr bridesmaid.
Post # 12
I was about 10 when i was a a flower girl for my aunt and uncle and 13 when i was a flower girl in my cousins although at thirteen being a flower girl seemed kinda awkward.
Post # 13
I’d say ask her! She might be thrilled to be a flower girl, or she might want to be a jr. bridesmaid. If she’s tiny like you said, though, personally I’d prefer her to be a FG than Jr. BM. I personally, I think 9 is a bit young to be a Jr. BM, and I don’t think it’s too old to be a FG, but if SHE thinks she’s too told to be a FG, then she is too old for FG. 😀
Post # 14
I was having the same issue! My godchild will be close to 8y/o before my wedding next summer. Originally I was having her as a Jr. BM but because my colors are black and ivory I did not want her wearing black and since I figured she’d be wearing ivory anyways she might as well be a flower girl. I think it’s what you want her to be in the end.
Post # 15
We just got married a couple of weeks ago and our flower girls were 7 and 10. The 10 year old absolutely wanted to be a flower girl without me even having to ask. She is also small (smaller than the 7 year old) and looked totally fine.
Post # 16
I think her being a flower girl will be fine! 9 year olds still have the ants in the pants if they’re trying to sit still for very long.