(Closed) How old is too old for a flower girl?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think 9 is fine for a flower girl. I’m not sure if that’s correct etiquette-wise, but IMO, junior bridesmaids are 10-15 and anything younger can be flower girl material. (:

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think you should have her be a junior bridesmaid.  I think it will make her feel like one of the ladies, instead of a little kid.  If she’s going to be 9, then that’s probably 4th grade.  I think 4th grade is a bit too old for a flower girl.  That’s just my opinion, though.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think she would feel better as a jr. bridesmaid. They don’t want to be thought of as a “little kid” anymore by that age, IMHO. I think she will love the jr. brideslaid title and feel more included.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Id ask her what she wants to be. If she wants to be flower girl id say go for it! A cordinated dress would look good and she would probably be very proud to be part of the grown ups.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with the pp who said jr. bridesmaid. She’s getting to the age where she wants to be a lady.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I personally think that Flower Girl is more appropriate for a 9 year old, but then again, I am not totally sold on the idea of JR bridesmaids either.  I think if she is small for her age then that is even more reason to go for flower girl.  To me the cutoff is around 11-12 (or puberty whichever comes first!)

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think under 10 is a flower girl but it depends on the girl also. Ask her 🙂

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i think 9 is fine, but then again im a bit bias my sister will be my flowergirl… shes 8 i just CANT picture her being able to stand still at the front of the  church for the whole ceremony.

to make her feel included she will have a matching dress to the bm you can buy that with most companies, ours is through eden maids. That way she matches all the big girls, but im sure shes going to love having her own eyes on her moment being fg

Post # 11
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Honey bee

9-10 is fine. 11+ is considered the appropriate age for a jr bridesmaid.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was about 10 when i was a a flower girl for my aunt and uncle and 13 when i was a flower girl in my cousins although at thirteen being a flower girl seemed kinda awkward.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’d say ask her!  She might be thrilled to be a flower girl, or she might want to be a jr. bridesmaid.  If she’s tiny like you said, though, personally I’d prefer her to be a FG than Jr. BM.  I personally, I think 9 is a bit young to be a Jr. BM, and I don’t think it’s too old to be a FG, but if SHE thinks she’s too told to be a FG, then she is too old for FG. 😀

 

GL

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was having the same issue! My godchild will be close to 8y/o before my wedding next summer. Originally I was having her as a Jr. BM but because my colors are black and ivory I did not want her wearing black and since I figured she’d be wearing ivory anyways she might as well be a flower girl. I think it’s what you want her to be in the end.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We just got married a couple of weeks ago and our flower girls were 7 and 10.  The 10 year old absolutely wanted to be a flower girl without me even having to ask.  She is also small (smaller than the 7 year old) and looked totally fine. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think her being a flower girl will be fine! 9 year olds still have the ants in the pants if they’re trying to sit still for very long.

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