Post # 1
As you guys know from my previous post, we are struggling with whether to allow people who invited their kids to bring them. Our venue is VERY expensive. There is a kids meal offered at a fraction of the cost. I am thinking that all kids 15 and under get the kids meal. I know that this is a little old, but these kids were not even technically invited and this is already costing my parents an arm and a leg. What do you guys think?
Post # 3
I think 15 is fine, I had 17 yr olds at my wedding asking for the kids meals because they are picky eaters.
Post # 4
We did 14 and younger and they all sat together at the kids table except for the little little ones. My step mom and aunt who have 13 and 14 year olds actually suggested a kids meal since they have picky eaters who would actually much prefer homemade chicken fingers and fries. We did make sure there was enough midnight buffet however for all the kids.
Post # 5
I understand where you’re coming from, but 15 seems too old. Our venue does kids meals for kids 12 and under, which I think is reasonable. Once you get into teenage territory I think adult meals should be offered.
You could also ask the parents of the older ‘kids’ (13-15). Maybe call them up and say “We have a kids meal of X for the kids under 12. Will Johnny want an adult meal or a kid meal”?
Post # 6
Does your venue give an age limit for the kids’ menu?
Ours is one-third the cost of the adult plates, and it’s either 12-and-under or 13-and-under (I can’t seem to get a straight answer from their event coordinator – which is a topic for a whole ‘nother thread!). I am wondering if I can fudge this because I have a couple of cousins in their middle teens who are picky eaters and will definitely want and prefer the kids meal – and I’d way rather do that for them if I can find a way to do so!
Post # 7
I think most restaurants err on about 10 or 12 years old and under. Maybe that’s a good cutoff? How many kids do you have between 12 – 15 that would end up getting the adult’s meal with this cutoff?
Post # 8
I agree that 15 seems old. Our cut off is 12.
we are paying less for guests under 21 because they can’t drink. Are you getting that discount as well?
It might be easier just to remind these people that their children were not invited. You shouldn’t be jumping thru hoops for everyone.
Post # 9
Ultimately, you are in charge of submitting the meal count to the caterers … if they are R.s.v.p.ing and putting their kids down for the pricey entree, I would just “correct their error” for them …
Post # 10
I would go somewhere between 10-12. You’re being a saint for even allowing them to come uninvited. But I know my 15 year old self would be offended by being offered the chix fingers or mac and cheese while my parents are having steak!
Post # 11
I think kids in high school might be a little put off by a kids meal. I’d say 10-12.
Post # 12
15 seems really old personally! I’d say 12 and under unless the parent indicates their child will not like any of the “adult” options.
Post # 13
I would say 10 at the oldest. My six year old wouldn’t even want chicken fingers. She eats “adult food”. Then again, I wouldn’t presume to bring her to a wedding she wasn’t invited to either.
Post # 14
15 is too old.
My dad used to force me to eat the kids meal at 13 and i HATED it – why am i stuck to chicken nuggets while everyone else gets the good food.
12 is the oldest.
if your having meal choices on the rsvp then maybe include the kids meals (on theirs) let them decide – you might luck out for people like my 26yo FI who was VERY JEALOUS of my 6yo neices chicken fingers.
Post # 15
I think we did 10 or 12 and under. If we had someone who was 12 and was clearly a “growing boy” or “heavy eater” I would let them get an adult meal if that is what the parents indicated.
Post # 16
Our cutoff is 12, too. I don’t think the kids’ portion would be big enough for teenagers.