Post # 1
This mornings radio segment was talking about Christmas lists. One of the participants is in her 30’s, married and still gives her parents a list every year. The radio DJ’s thought that given her age and marital status, it was crazy to think that she’d still make a detailed list for her parents. They took some callers and the opinions were pretty much split down the middle so I thought I’d poll the Hive.
How old is too old to make a Christmas list for your parents?
I haven’t made a list in a few years only because there’s nothing that I really want that would require a formal list. When asked, I’m more than happy to tell my family what I’d like (if there’s anything) but I normally leave it at that. If there were a number of things that I’d like then I’d give my parents/grandmother/aunt a list just to make it easier on them. They always ask what I want so I don’t see the difference between verbalizing it or writing it down. For what it’s worth, I’m 25, married and have been living on my own (well, with DH) for over 6 years. .
Darling Husband, on the other hand, feels that lists are inappropriate after a certain age. He didn’t tell me what that “certain age” was but I imagine he means when you’re out of your parents house.
Post # 3
I lived at home until my early-20’s, and I made a list more for the sake of helping my Mom figure out what to get me rather than a list of things I WANTED (if that makes any sense). I would never think of making a list and giving it to my parents now that I’m married and living away from home. Even if I wasn’t married, I still wouldn’t make a list. That’s just ridiculous.
I’m not sure there is an age to stop, I guess it’s all relative.
Post # 4
When my parents stop asking me to make a list, then I’ll stop making them one. Honestly it’s just easier to figure out what to buy someone when they give you a list of what they want! My mom gives me a list too. 🙂
Post # 5
Maybe it’s a cultural thing (probably is) but I’ve never done a christmas list… we do get gifts for each other, but it requires more digging on their part…
Although a list would definitely simplify things!
Post # 6
I don’t think I made a list after the age of 10, it’s just not something my family does. My parents and I talk about what I want and my mom gets me a few additional surprises. I think once you’re out of the house its probably time to stop.
Post # 7
We do Secret Santa with my family so we each only have to buy one gift. We all write down 3 things we’d like and we draw names using the lists. I don’t think you are ever too old to write a list. It makes it easier for the gift giver, and the receiver is guaranteed something they want/need.
Post # 8
It’s so much easier to have a list! We still do them and I’m 24 and have been on my own since I was 19.
Post # 9
I agree that lists make it easier on everyone. The radio DJ’s were saying that if the person buying the gifts paid attention and knew you then they shouldn’t need a list but I disagreed with that. My mom knows me pretty damn well but she still has no idea what I really want for Christmas. I’m sure she’d figure some stuff out if I never gave her any ideas but it probably wouldn’t be anything overly useful. My grandmother has been nagging me for a list but I honestly don’t really want anything. She told me that unless I give her a list I’m getting socks and underwear. Hey, that works for me. Maybe I’ll be able to push laundry back a couple days! 🙂
Post # 10
@MissBoPeep: Agree. As long as my parents keep asking for it, I’ll keep giving them one.
I’m 27 and this will be my first married Christmas. I’ve been away from home for 4 years now. Honestly, everyone exchanges lists – my siblings, parents, DH’s parents and siblings. It just makes things easier (except that you have to be a bit strategic that no one buys repeat gifts).
Post # 11
Does an Amazon wish list count? Mr and I keep an updated Amazon list and email the link to our parents. They looooove that we do this because it makes it easier for them.
Post # 12
I think it depends a lot on your parents. My parents will now just ask me if there is anything I want (if they remember). But my secretary tells her two full 30 some year old kids that they need to get her a list before Thanksgiving!
Post # 13
its not evne my choice at this point. my mom badgers me for my xmas list each year. its not about childish-ness.. its about organization! my mom is thankful to have a list. why make them think more than they have to and risk getting something you dont want. its not like i write Dear Santa, at the top.
Post # 14
My DH’s mom calls him every year on thanksgiving and demands a list. She says that if she doesn’t receive a list within a week, she’s getting him 12 pair tighty whities wrapped in a big red bow. lol. So….. I think it is just whatever works for your family. My husband will prob always do a christmas list bc his mom will prob always demand it. Its a bit presumptious as an adult to make a list un-requested I think… but if someone asks its nice to give them ideas to make their shopping easier
Post # 15
My parents and FI’s parents ask us for a list each year. And it’s always a struggle to come up with things. It’s honestly just easier shopping off a list though.
Post # 16
@UpstateCait: The radio DJ’s were saying that if the person buying the gifts paid attention and knew you then they shouldn’t need a list but I disagreed with that.
Hahaha that’s funny. Were any of the dj’s men? If they are, they must be the best most attentive husband’s ever and their wives must get the best, most thoughtful gifts!
I write things down as I think of them for gift ideas because when people ask me I go blank and can’t think of anything. So I guess i’m a list writer. 🙂