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How old is TOOOOO old for flower girl??

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    damaskqueen    August 21, 2010  

    I am wondering if 11 is to old for a flower girl..My daughter just turned 11 and I would love for her to be my flower girl but wondering if she is to old. I am gonna have her carry down a beautiful pomander (not like she will be carrying down a basket ya know lol) Just wondering if that will be sily????

     
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    roxy821    August 21, 2010  

    I would just be careful how you dress her. Not white poufy dress. I would lean more towards Jr. Bridesmaid style gowns. But she can still cary a pomander and you can still refer to her as your flower girl.

     
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    MissHelen    November 20, 2010   California

    I think 11 is fine, especially considering she's your daughter which I think is very special.

    My three flower girls are 8. 9, and 10 and it means the world to them!

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    When I was 11-12 I was the flower girl for my sister's wedding. I think that's fine and not silly at all!

     
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    mrsmdphd    April 17, 2009  

    I don't know, at my FSIL's wedding, my FBIL was the flower girl, with the bucket of rose petals and everything.  He was adorable and did a lovely job.

    JUST KIDDING.  (I mean, I'm not, that really happened, and it was great, but I realize that doesn't help you at all.)  I think having your daughter do it would be lovely!  When my dad got married, I was 10, and I was a bridesmaid for my stepmom, and no one seemed to think anything of it, so that's another option for you as well.  Good luck, and welcome to Weddingbee!

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    I was a junior bridesmaid when I was 11. I would probably put her as a junior bridesmaid instead because she may feel a little arkward being a flower girl.

    Most flower girls range from 3-8 years old.

    Edit: How about asking her how she would feel about being a flower girl.

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I think its fine.  Especially given that its your daughter.  Not having her walk down the aisle would be odd.  I agree with roxy- don't try to dress her in the typical flower girl dress.  Besides, I bet at 11 years old she thinks she's all grown up!  Lol. 

     
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    RoddyBride09    September 5, 2009   Bethlehem, PA

    As someone else mentioned, I would make her a JR. Bridesmaid.

     
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    damaskqueen    August 21, 2010  

    Thanks to all of you!!! @roxy821  I was thinking that too..

    She is very excited to be in mommys wedding lol She really doesnt care what role in it she has lol I would have loved her to be a jr. bridesmaid BUT we really dont have another lil girl to be the flower girl so I guess the flower girl she is thanks again!!

     

     
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    MsTerrapin    June 19, 2010   Maryland

    My niece is 10 (will be almost 11 at the wedding) and when I got engaged she *insisted* that she be a flower girl, NOT a junior bridesmaid.  And because she is my niece and I spoil her and want her to have a great time, I said OK, whatever you want!  She also specified that she must be able to actually throw flower petals (she was a flower girl at a family friend's wedding when she was younger and was not allowed to throw any petals, which she maintains does not "count" as being a flower girl)

     

    If she wants to be a flower girl and you want her to be a flower girl, then she can be a flower girl.  It's your wedding-- it won't look silly at all if it is what you want!  Now, if you or she or both of you feel weird about her being a flower girl and she would prefer to be a junior bridesmaid, then maybe that is a better choice.  Otherwise, flower girl it is!

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    10 or 11

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    12, 13? If i were around your daughter's age, i'd MUCH rather be a flower girl, haha. You don't have to practice everything - just show up, toss some flowers, and get a present :-)

     
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    Bella13    May 13, 2009   Honolulu, Hawaii

    My cousin was my flower girl and she's 13. She wore a cute modern white dress and carried the basket and threw flowers. She loved it and everyone thought it was cute.

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    MrsJellybean227    January 1, 2011   TN

    I think that 11 is fine. I agree with someone else who said lean more towards the jr bm dresses instead of fg dresses. I'm having to go w/ jr bm dress for my flower girl. She'll be 9, and only a few days away from being 10, but is a big girl for her age (TALL!).

     
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    PrncssDva    October 16, 2010   Memphis, TN

    I agree with 11 being just fine. I also agree with no having her wear a poofy dress.

     
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    JamaicaBride    May 14, 2011   Charlotte, NC

    @Bella...I like your spin on the flower girl role. Your cousin looked lovely.

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    @bella - yes - i like her dress! What a chic flower girl :)

     
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    KimH14    August 14, 2010  

    I have 2 flower girls and they are both 11 yrs old. I think it is fine, one of my flower girls is going to be walking my lil 10 month old down the aisle but they both will be trying to toss flowers lol maybe. But i have a little problemo 1 of my flower girls is in a 36c bra omg we have the dresses already but her boobs kinda poke out a little on the sides so i think we are going to add a little fabric there lol

     
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    eeniebeans    October 9, 2010   Baltimore

    I think its fine- particularly because she is your daughter.

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    I agree - go for it!

     
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    damaskqueen    August 21, 2010  

    Thank you guys sooo much !!!! I feel so much better about my decision.. @KimH14 I think that will work out just fine by adding some fabric..lol Its crazy how fast they grow up..

    @Bella13 I also LOVE the idea you had for your flower girl..She looked so pretty!! Okay I have come to the conclusion my daughter will DEFINTLEY be our flower girl :) thanks again!

     
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    Magenta    July 31, 2010   Springfield MA- Wedding in PR

    @bella13 i was about to mention your wedding because i remember the pictures...

    i think 11 is fine and if she wants then go for it

     

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