How on earth should I handle this?!?!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’ve heard of open ceremonies…but open receptions?! How would anyone deal with that? I think you should just send out invites like most brides do. Create a seating chart. I mean, how do people in your community choose how much food and drink to get normally if people are just showing up willy-nilly?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

hire someone to act as a bouncer and put on your invitations to present the invitation for admittance to the church. or just give the bouncer a list of who rsvp’d and if theyre not on the list, they dont get in.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@CyberCyndee99:  I agree with the suggestions given by PPs. Maybe if someone not invited mentions it to you, you could mention that you would love to see them at the ceremony, but unfortunately your reception venue is at capacity and you can’t accomodate anymore guests. There is probably a really nice and polite way of wording it, I just can’t think of it right now.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I know its probably taboo in your area then…but I would definitely go with an invite-only entrance to the reception. Like, show your invite at the door for proof you were invited type thing. And spread by word that you cannot accomodate the whole town.  

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hire a wedding coordinator to keep out the uninvited folks… Or maybe a bouncer, haha. Make sure you have seating charts. Wow, I can’t believe that many people would just crash a wedding, that’s insane!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I sort of get church people showing support at the ceremony but they definitely should not make their way onto the reception. Your reception is not right next to the ceremony right? I’ve heard of people posting an announcement of the ceremony details on a church bulletin board saying anyone welcome and in smaller print saying private reception. Is there an older lady in your family like your mom/aunt/somebody that can help guide you? I’m sure they can help figure out a practical solution that is sensitive to the town’s typical wedding culture. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’d just get married somewhere that isn’t in your home town. People won’t crash if they don’t know about it!

Post # 13
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@CyberCyndee99:  I would order extra food just in case, since you now that’s a risk. I’d hate for the food to run out at my reception.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

I’d hire someone to act as a “bouncer” at the door.  I’m sure some college kid would love to make $75 to work one night.

Also- Now I’ve heard it all.  Those people sound absolutely crazy.

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