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    Nlmiele    July 3, 2010   Pa

    The wedding is 2 hours away from where mine and most of FI's family lives. I am doing OOT bags for the people who are coming in from out of state, but should be do a bag for anyone who spends the night at the hotel? I don't really think 2 hours up the highway is that big of a deal!

     
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    Magenta    July 31, 2010   Springfield MA- Wedding in PR

    i dont think two hours are a big deal, a lot of my family have to travel almost two hours to get to my wedding. im only making oot bags for the guest that are flying to my wedding...   =)

     
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    VagabondGurl    August 7, 2010   Wedding: NH; Living: CA

    guess it depends on how many extra bags you'd have to make for those others and if the cost is in your budget.  i think it's a kind idea...  and i might worry that those who did spend the money to come and stay the night might feel left out for not having gotten one.  the only people specifically i am not making them for are the guests that are not staying in hotels, those that are local to my venue (which will be very few people).  my guests that are coming from a couple hours away (if they are getting hotels and not just making a day trip) i plan on making bags for.

     
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    sapphirebride    December 31, 2010   Seattle, WA

    I think that if your guests are all staying at the same hotels, then everyone that stays at the hotel should get a bag. Guests are going to love the bags and want to talk about them and other people are going to feel left out when they find out that only some guests got gifts. I think if someone had to pay money to stay at a hotel for your wedding, AND you've decided to do OOT bags, that it's only right that they get a gift too.

     
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    bobbypinpearls    July 17, 2010   Arkansas

    I agree, OOT bags are usually for out of staters! Those that live in state know where all the cool places are and how to get there and all that, so they'll be fine!

     
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    gcwest    June 25, 2011   Washington DC, wedding in CT

    My first response was going to be just the out of staters, but if they're staying overnight in a hotel... I feel like they should get one too.  Might make it less complicated for you delivering them to hotels too if you're just dropping off a bunch of them for all of your guests there, rahter than having to coordinate which guests at the hotel get them.

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i would give everyone a bag. if i was driving a few hours and staying the night and saw other people had a bag and i didn't, i'd be a little upset. plus, just b/c they aren't flying there, they are driving and spending money on gas and a hotel room. it would be nice to show that you appreciate that.

     
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    oakster    June 26, 2010   SF East Bay

    We're doing them for everyone staying in a hotel, in part because they will include directions, local guides, etc.---things people will need even if they're not coming from out-of-state (and since we live in a pretty big state, there are lots of in-staters who will be coming to our city for the first time!) It might depend on what you plan to put in them, though. Is there anything going into them that people coming from two hours away wouldn't need, but people from further away would? If so, you could always just leave those things out of bags for local-er people, and that would help on the cost front too.

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    2 hrs away is not a OOT guest. They should be called out of state guests. LOL Most people in the same state are generally considered out of town. But yes, that close of a proximity, they likely will not be staying overnight. But you should treat your guests equally regardless. OOT bags are never required, if you can't afford them, and a majority of people have never seen one in real life and do not feel jipped because they haven't received one.

     
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    LoriLori    July 24, 2010   Long Beach Island, NJ

    I'm having a really small wedding and most people are driving 1, 1.5 hours and realy, love OOT bags so EVERYONE is getting one, whether they're staying over or not!  (hee-hee)

    But I know I'm going overboard. 

     
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    krissybee    October 15, 2011   :: chicago IL ::

    great post! i was wondering this myself as we only have a few guests that are flying... everyone else the wedding is 2 hours away.

    I may, if in the budget, do OOT bags for everyone.

     

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