Post # 1
Recently, my fiance and I have been going through the house-buying process, and I’ve realized i’m not comfortable with people knowing the details of how much the place is costing. My parents have been involved in the process, so they are aware of the price. Similarily, my mom is always talking to my grandparents and aunt about it, so they know all the details too.
Even with that though- I’m not totally comfortable with everyone thinking “Oh you bought a place for THAT much!! Your mortgage is HOW much?”. I specifically asked my mom to please keep the price quiet when talking to other people outside of my immediate family.
How many people did you tell this info to? I’ve had a few friends ask me to show them pictures of the place online, and i’ve made up an excuse not to since I didn’t want them seeing the price of the listing lol!
Post # 3
My dad literally asked us how much our house cost and DH was not really happy about it. I agree that just family should really know.
Post # 4
I think it’s very personal and I really don’t think that I’ll share any price info with people other than our parents. This will be hard seeing as our friends tend to be very nosy people!
Another way that you can look at it is that you guys have worked hard to get into a place that you love and so you shouldn’t be ashamed if it is considered “expensive” by other people. As far as sharing your mortgage info, I’d refrain from saying anything about that – what matters is that you guys are happy/comfortable with those costs, not what other people think 🙂
Post # 5
I hate anyone knowing. It’s right up there with, how much do you make. I just wasn’t raised in a house where it’s acceptable to ask. but i work with a girl who has found a website that’s public record and she can find out how much your house was and who is on the deed. lovely.. ugh
Post # 6
This is interesting. We are starting to look into buying now, and where we are moving (San Fran/Bay Area) the prices are heart-attack-inducing higher than where I grew up/most of my family and friends are – Texas. So they keep saying offhand comments about how easy it is to find a home, how afffordable, and I have to keep reminding them that a 2-bedroom fixer upper single bedroom home in Berkeley, CA costs roughly half a million dollars. I almost feel attacked for not having bought yet, becaus so many people where I grew up were able to buy for a really low price – in the mid-$100,00s or slightly higher. So, I almost feel the need to overshare so that they understand why we won’t be getting a 4-bedroom McMansion!
Post # 7
I’ve never thought the cost of a house was some big secret.
Post # 8
It totally doesn’t matter to me, really. I mean, if they really want to know that bad they can look it up on redfin!
Post # 9
It doesn’t bug me that much. If people act like we are entitled, I just tell them that the things we have came at a price that I wish I didn’t pay. I don’t go advertising what our house costs but I will tell people that ask. Plus the information from county clerks is now available online in most counties.
Post # 10
I would find it very rude if someone who is not family or a close friend flat out asks us how much our place cost.
*EDIT* Just wanted to add that I also find it very rude if someone asks how much my ring costs…Like PP said, if they want to know the cost of my home just look it up, but asking me is rude.
Post # 11
this is a public record on your local property appraisers website. All you need is the address and/or the last name of the owner.
I think its impolite to ask, but its not a big secret.
Post # 12
@crayfish: I grew up/live in the Bay Area so I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about! My grandparents paid $30k cash for their home over 40 years ago and my grandpa is one of those “pay cash for everything” post-depression babies, so he’s been getting on us about how we shouldn’t spend so much — but it is IMPOSSIBLE in the bay area. Really.
Post # 13
@indyJEEP: I KNOW! It’s absolutely insane. How on earth are you not supposed to spend so much? Live in a stuio hovel in the worst neighborhood of Oakland? Commute 3 hours from the inland part of CA? Just not possible. The home prices are something that is not even conceivable to most of the people I grew up around. Luckily, my husband and I have good jobs, but I think it’s insane that over 60% of people in the Bay Area make in the top 10% of wages nationally, and only roughly 28% qualify for home ownership. How does it even get to that point?!
Post # 14
i dont think the cost of a house is any big secret these days – they can google real estate in your area to get an ballpark idea
whats annoying is when people start asking specifics because i think its strange to ask someone about their income/how they afford things
Post # 15
Ditto at what caszos said. If people really want to know then they can look it up at their property appraiser’s website. I have done that actually when I get curious about other people, but I would never outright ask someone. That is just as rude as asking about someone’s income. But if someone asked me I would probably just tell them since I know the could find the info in the public record.
Post # 16
There was a ton of people who asked me how much I bought my house for and how I could afford it. It was super annoying. I’m pretty young though, I bought my house when I was 18 so of course all my friends were like what? How did you buy that? I am open with the price I bought it for but not as open with how I am able to pay for it and how much my mortgage is. 🙂