(Closed) How (or) Did You Change Your Name?

posted 5 years ago in Names
  • poll: How did you change your name?
    Dropped my last name : (21 votes)
    50 %
    Dropped my middle name : (8 votes)
    19 %
    Hyphenated : (0 votes)
    He took my name : (0 votes)
    I didn't (am not going to) change names : (10 votes)
    24 %
    Other...? : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Made a new last name together : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    6745 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m planning on dropping my last name.  My middle name means a lot more to me than my last name since my middle name was after my grandfather who passed away just before I was born. 

    Post # 4
    4606 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m also planning on dropping my middle name, so it’ll be Myfirstname Mylastname Hislastname. 

    Post # 5
    4789 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2019

    I actually haven’t decided yet. I’m not attached to my first name or my last name. I was planning to drop my first name, but it would require a court order and sounds weird. FH suggested that I drop my last name and just replace it with his, which sounds better and is simpler. I’m leaning towards his suggestion. 

    Post # 6
    2493 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I took DH’s last name. We’ve been together almost 12 years, and our 8-year-old Dirty Delete has his last name, so I’ve been looking forward to sharing it with the both of them for years. It’s also a plus that I went from a hyphenated, hard to pronounce last name to a very easily said, common one.

    Post # 7
    2281 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Not changing my name. I am happy to answer to DH’s family name socially, so people refer to us as The Smiths and we get mail for The Smiths or to Darling Husband and ProfessorGirl Smith, but officially my name has not changed. I was warned that people would find this so confusing, but not a single person has. 

    Post # 8
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    First Name Maiden Name Married Name

    I dropped my given middle name all together. 

    Post # 9
    11273 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    no name changing here. 

    Post # 10
    11343 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I did what you plan to do — dropped my given middle name and took my maiden name as my new middle name. Besides being the formal, traditional manner in which women in the US historically have changed their names, this choice allows you to become a “Mrs.,” which keeping your last name and hyphenating your name do not; allows you to have the same last name as your DH; and allows you to maintain a clear continuity of identity, something that dropping your last name does not. I absolutely love my new name, because I can use just my first and last names when I want to and all three names when I want to. Having my maiden name as my middle name has really helped with the transition of changing my name on my credit cards and mailings I receive, too.

    Post # 12
    11343 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009


    You definitely brought up an excellent point that I failed to mention. If he changes his last name to yours, or if you both hyphenate your last names together (John and Jane Smith-Doe), or if the two of you, together, make an entirely new name, you certainly are able to use “Mrs.” (It’s only if your last names differ that you would not properly be able to use “Mrs.” but would instead properly be a “Ms.” And, of course, any woman, regardless of her marital status may always use the Ms. honorific.)

    Post # 13
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I use MyFirst MyMiddle MyMaiden HisLast. It was important to me to keep my entire given name and it was important to him that I take his last name, no hyphens. 

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