Post # 1
My FI and I have acquaintances who invited us to their wedding two weeks ago. The part that bugs me though is that the wedding is today. They didn’t even give us a invitation, just told us a bunch of people canceled on them and now they could invite us because otherwise these peoples meals and drinks were just going to go to waste. So basically, the only reason they invited us is because they didn’t want to waste money they already spent. Before I could even open my mouth my FI says, “Sure, we’ll go.” Last weekend was the brides bachelorette party and even though all our mutual friends were invited, I wasn’t. I’m kind of mad about the whole situation and really don’t want to go. But, now I feel like we have to since my FI told them we would two weeks ago. Is it totally wrong not to go?
Post # 3
Since, from the start, you consider them acquaintances vs. friends or close friends, I don’t think it would be rude for you not to go, nor do I think it rude that you’ve been invited so late in the game. I do think it was rude that they told you why you were being invited now, and I do think it would be rude if you and FI just didn’t show up without calling first (I know, they asked you and FI without a formal invitation, but you could call and show a courtesy whether they’ve extended one to you or not.)
If you go to the wedding, treat it as an opportunity to take notes for your own. 😉 Enjoy the meal, dance, wish them well, and leave.
Post # 4
Before I got married, I might have had a different perspective on this. But having had 15 no shows on the day of myself, it was kind of disappointing. I do think their method of inviting you was pretty tacky itself, but since you said you’d go, you may as well go. What’s the worst that will happen? Grab a card, go eat and enjoy yourself!
Post # 5
you say you are aquaintances, and they were honest about everything up front, so i don’t necessarily think you should be upset with them. however, it also sounds like you don’t want to go, so there’s no harm in not going, as long as you of course let them know.
Post # 6
I would go and enjoy yourselves. I think the way they invited you was very rude and says a lot about them but why not partake in the party?
Post # 7
@Cornflakegirl: I thought about calling or texting as well and then realized how close we really aren’t. Neither my FI or I have their phone numbers. We are friends with them on facebook and they don’t have their numbers listed there either. We tried calling the mutual friends of ours and they didn’t pick up their phones.
This is the reason my FI and I decide we aren’t having a “B list” of guests at our wedding. They are either close enough to us that they get an invitation right away or else they don’t and aren’t invited. It really sucks feeling like this. And although I NEVER would have told my “B list” that they were only invited so we don’t waste money, I think they would figure it out that they weren’t our first choice.
Post # 8
I have to say, we had nine last minute cancellations by people that our parents made us invite. We definitely thought about contacting some newer friends/coworkers that hadn’t made the cut originally that we thought would be fun to have come hang out with us for free dinner/drinks that we’d already paid for. We didn’t actually do it, and now we’re closer with some of those people, and I kind of wish we had!
Post # 9
I would go just as an excuse to get dressed up and like PP said, to take notes for your own wedding. Enjoy free food and beverages and dance the night away with your FH.
It’s terrible how they invited you or why they even thought it would be OK to tell you why you were invited — don’t mind the tackiness and go and have a good time, IF YOU WANT TO. If you don’t want to go, then don’t:)
Post # 10
I’d probably go, just to scope out the decor. But, I would not be chipping in to buy a fancy gift, or anything. It was really rude how they did you. She could have invited you to her bachelorette or something. It’s like you’re not good enough to keep them company, but good enough to buy them a gift??
Post # 11
Go for the free food and drinks and pick up a $.99 card!
Post # 12
I hope you went, i agree with xshellx2003 and everyone else….
Way they told you? Tacky as hell
Free dinner, booze and dancing? Why not! If you’re not married already, you may pick up some ideas or spot somethings you make sure to avoid, it sounds like you’ll have some mutual buddies there too. You don’t have to really associate with the couple, they’ll be too busy anyway!
Post # 13
I’m late but I would have said don’t go. Hope you didn’t .
Post # 14
We didn’t go. Neither of us wanted to go and instead we stayed home cooked dinner together and watched a movie. So, I’m very happy with our decision. My FI did text the groom to let him know after calling and getting no answer. I am also planning on giving them a card and a serving platter that I had lying around in my gift closet.
Post # 15
@Alexis22: Nice that your FI had the groom’s number and texted him and kind of you to plan to give a card and gift. That’s great that you two had a cozy night together!