Post # 1
So I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant and due December 30th. I am high risk and my doctor let me know I would be most likely having the baby before December 30th. With that being said, I am trying to plan out my maternity leave as soon as possible. I am highly anxious and want to get this worked out so I don’t have to worry the rest of the pregnancy.
I will be taking the full 16 weeks off and once maternity leave starts, all of my sick days and vacation days will be used towards maternity leave first. I will have about 8 sick days and 8 vacation days if I don’t use any until then. My initial plan was to take a planned vacation from December 18-21 and then I have holidays days the 22nd, 25th, and 26th. I was then going to take vacation days the 27th, 28th, and 29th as well. With maternity leave starting once I give birth. I thought this was the best way to get the most out of my vacation days and have planned time off before the baby to get things in order at home and then have the full 16 weeks of maternity leave. I let my supervisor know my plan and she said that I could have the Week of December 18-21 off but she is already taking off the next week so I couldn’t. That would mean working right before I’m supposed to give birth. I know a lot of women do this but it makes me extremely nervous since I am high risk and this is my first baby. My job is very stressful and if I were to go into labor I would have to contact all of my clients and cancel their sessions while still ensuring their files get faxed and their session notes get updated in our system. I can’t just leave for four months without completing these items. I am worried my water will break at a client’s home, I couldn’t get to my husband/drive, and my house would be a mess!
I’m wondering what you all would do in this situation? I would love to feel at ease and have my last day planned with everything in order and not have to worry about contacting 20 people while in Labor and finishing work when I get home. Can I start maternity leave on December 27th and still use vacation days December 18-21 and then the holiday days of course? I don’t want to upset my supervisor but I can’t imagine working up until my due date or not having things planned out ahead of time. Hubby and I plan to turn off our phones and enjoy the experience to the fullest since this may be our only time to do this. Please help!!!
Post # 2
That’s absolutely absurd. It’s not like you’re taking a vacation, you’re preparing to give birth and shouldn’t be at work. As a woman, your supervisor should fully understand this.
Post # 3
I was high risk and worked until the day I gave birth (5 days before my due date – I did not have a stressful job though). However, its highly likely that your doctor will recommend that you stop working before that, depending on your situation. You need to make it clear to your supervisor that it may be completely out of your hands whether you’re available that week, regardless of whether you have given birth.
Post # 4
c3lloninja : I know! It’s my first time and we’ve had a difficult time so far so I’m extremely nervous and although I know I can’t really prepare I would like to at least not worry about work. My office is mostly women so I’m surprised it is like this. I didn’t think anyone would already have a vacation week picked out 4-5 months in advance either and no one else can take off!
Post # 5
cbee2017 : Wow, I couldn’t imagine working up until I give birth. That’s impressive! With my job, I travel to my client’s homes, about an hour away from my home and then the hospital is another 30 minutes from my home. I sometimes travel farther for court and when I need to supervise visits. I am already very tired and uncomfortable and I’m worried I’ll feel awful at that point and still have to worry about getting all of my paperwork in. I also don’t want all of my clients knowing I’m in labor and potentially showing at the hospital :/
Post # 6
Your superviser has lost her mind – not sure why she’d plan leave the week before your maternity was due to start and expect you’d be there to cover her? What if you go into labor much earlier than expected, what would she do then?
I’d definitely try and speak to her again and voice your concerns re:working that final week just like you have with us. They’re valid points, and if you go into labor while in the office the last thing you’re going to do it wrap up all the client accounts.
Post # 7
There is noone else who can cover for you or your supervisor? I mean now she still has 4 months to organize it… if you go into labor early she has absolutely no time to organize a replacement.
Post # 8
I would talk to her again and have a Drs note ready just in case.
Post # 9
Sorry but I disagree with pp’s, your employer has every right to deny vacation which is what you are taking. If you want to avoid this then start your maternity leave offically on the 21st.
Vacation leave is treated differently to maternity leave and if your employer works on a first come first served vacation leave plan then it is not your colleagues fault that they applied for leave, which they are entitled to, first.
Post # 10
j_jaye : oh come on, put some common sense onto that. Yes they have every right to refuse leave but what is the point of refusing leave that is going to lead into maternity leave? Over Christmas as well. To me it’s cutting off your nose to spite your face.
go back and have a sensible conversation with her. Point out that it might not be your choice anyway (my son was 8 days early)
i had 3 weeks of leave to use up before I went on mat leave. My work had no issue with me taking them over Christmas and then starting my mat leave 2 weeks before my due date
Post # 11
Your supervisor has every right to take vacation to enjoy Christmas with her family. If you want that time off, have your leave begin on the 21st.
Post # 12
Twizbe : So she can take maternity leave which by using common sense is what it is for. The OP is trying to use the system to her advantage (I don’t blame her for that) but the employer does not have to agree to it.
The OP has the option to start maternity leave on the 21st (which is, if you use your common sense, when her mat leave replacement would start hence not disrupting vacation leave schedules) but doesn’t want to as opposed to not being able to.
Post # 13
I didn’t think anyone would already have a vacation week picked out 4-5 months in advance either and no one else can take off!
Um you didn’t think anyone would take a week around the Christmas holidays off?
Can I start maternity leave on December 27th and still use vacation days December 18-21 and then the holiday days of course?
This is 100% up to your employer. Since they’ve said no, now you have to decide which is more important to you–Having those particular days off, or a full 16 weeks off after you give birth. Either that or find another job. Cuz even if you brought a doctor’s note saying you can’t work those days, your employer would naturally just say welll start your maternity leave earlier then. Which might not be what you want.
Post # 14
andersonmn : there are more important things in life other than a job.. like pushing a tiny human out of you.
You need to do whats best for you. I’m sure you can get it in writing from your doc. Your boss will just have to figure it out.
Post # 15
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High demand vacation times people put in for 6 months in advance. My maternity leave started when I gave birth. I was working 12 hour shifts at the hospital up until then. Pregnancy isn’t view as limiting until a doctor’s note says it is. Your boss has every right to think you are capable of doing your job while you are pregnant & until you are in labor.
Get a note from your doctor if you are at risk.