Post # 31
jannigirl : I absolutely do not want her to miss her vacation and never said that I did. I am just confused as to what her plan is and I don’t want her and my co-workers to count on me being there the week of the 25th when I will not be. I am simply trying to tell them ahead of time so that we have a plan in place and I am not calling in the week of Christmas having my co-workers re-arrange their schedules and causing extra stress on them. I’m not sure if she realizes that I will not be working that week regardless if I am scheduled to or not so I’m trying to figure out if I need to start maternity leave early and what that would entail or if I need to take vacation days.
Post # 32
andersonmn : I’m not sure how you *know* you will be off that week given that your maternity leave will not have started & your vacation request was denied. Are you just going to call in sick for a week? Seems as if you are hell bent on having that time off, which doesn’t seem reasonable.
I find it odd that your doctor knows 5 months in advance just when you’ll go into labor. You’re only 4 months along.
Post # 33
andersonmn : your supervisor is a fool for thinking it makes sense for you to work until your due date without a contingency plan. My plan was to work until the Friday before my due date. My daughter had other plans and came 2.5 weeks early. Of course if you’re available to work then fine – go in. But they need a back up.
Post # 34
I know because my doctor said that she is not going to let me go past my due date due to health complications. She said she would induce me prior to my due date and she typically schedules inductions for Tuesdays or Wednesdays which means I’ll be induced on 12/27 at the latest. I’m going by what she has told me. I’m not hell bent on having time off, I am simply trying to plan accordingly based off what my doctor has told me. I am actually in my 5th month of pregnancy and I know plenty of women who have scheduled inductions.
Post # 35
andersonmn : It depends how your company handles disability/maternity leave. At my company, if I had a week of vacation scheduled starting on the 18th, then happened to deliver early on the 19th, the official maternity leave would begin on the day i have the baby. My company’s disabillity provider requires that new moms notify them of the birth date within 2 weeks of the delivery. I would not be able to begin my maternity leave before the actual delivery without a note from the doctor putting me on disability.
Post # 36
Lets face it, the chances that a heavily pregnant woman with a high risk pregnancy who is due on the 30th of December will be fit and ready to work between the 26th and 30th of December are pretty much non existant. A supervisor who denies that woman vacation during that time ”because there’s nobody to cover” is not living in the real world and is causing a pregnant woman unecessary stress.
OP, I would talk to your doctor again and ask her for her advice on what to do in your situation. Maybe she can give you a doctor’s note confirming that she will induce you on the 27th of December at the latest. Once you have all the facts from your Dr, I’d sit down with your supervisor and tell her that you will be induced on the 27th at the latest. I’d also explain to her why you’re high-risk and why there’s a high chance you may be induced even earlier, and that your Dr advises you to take vacation days (if that’s the case).
It’s really not possible or sensible to treat a pregnant woman at the end of her pregnancy like any other employee. A baby is considered full-term from 38 weeks and any employer has to expect that the woman can give birth at any point after that and not expect her to be covering for employees on vacation.
Post # 37
I’m a bit confused. If you were already approved for vacation 12/18- 12/21 and already have 12/25 and 12/26 off for the holidays, and are to begin maternity leave on 12/27, then the only days you’re concerned about are 12/22 – 12/24, right? So you’re stressing out over 3 days?
At this point, you were denied it, so I would just go with the flow. I work with NICU babies and I can tell you with 100% certainty, no one planned on having their baby early (for those that are preemies). And I can also tell you that the majority of those babies did not come from high risk pregnancies. I’m sure the employers of those parents had to figure out something so I seriously would not stress about those 3 days.
I have to apply for vacation time a year in advance, so sorry, yes, a lot of us have to have our vacation plans set really far in advance. It’s first come first serve and just because someone becomes pregnant, they don’t get dibs over those that already requested their time. We just find a way to staff around it, no big deal.
I would just plan on starting maternity leave on 12/27. If you go early, then figure it out then.
Post # 38
Doctor’s note. If you and your doctor have discussed the plan to have the baby prior to your due date, then all you need is a doctor’s note with the last date you’re approved to work. Her stating she has vacation that she’s taking and you must be in the office is ridiculous. She should organize a replacement instead. I had to jump through hoops with my employer for maternity leave and doctor’s notes are literally the only thing that they have to abide by, just saying that’s what they said or what you’re planning, they can dismiss, which is ridiculous but what I learned.
Post # 39
j_jaye : Yes, I agree.
I was also high risk (and ended up having my son a month early) but I worked up until the day before I gave birth.
You can either start your maternity leave earlier, or work up until then. Many women work up until they give birth.
Post # 40
What state do you live in?
In order to use FMLA, you need to actually give birth or have your doctor sign off on it. You can’t just say “oh I feel like starting my leave on x date”. If you have any short term disability coverage, same situation. I believe a few states do allow leave before birth, hence my first question. If the 16 weeks is just something you do through your employer, then you’ll just have to start your leave earlier if they won’t accommodate your vacation request.
If you doctor is absolutely certain they will induce you early, ask them to schedule the induction and just bring the paperwork to your employer.
eta: vacation time around christmas is scheduled the previous January at my work lol. It shouldn’t be a shock that people want time off then.