How should I end this friendship? (LONG)

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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718 posts
Busy bee

This is the first time she has pulled stuff like this?? She’s going through a crisis. Tell her that her lack of regard for the personal property of others as well as YOUR well being is too much for you right now, you wish her well and maybe down the line you can reconnect but she needs to work on her issues and you need distance. Good luck. 

Post # 18
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4961 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Navygirl14 :  supposedly at least some of this is on video and it shows her handling the item, not you.  having thought over this situation more, I think it’s really imperitive that you contact her commanding officer and tell them what’s been going on.

Post # 20
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2963 posts
Sugar bee

She tried to get you in trouble with the POLICE. She pointed the finger at you and said you commited a crime. There is no need to drop her in a nice way. Either tell her what she did was horrible and you never want to talk to her again, or ghost her. I would personally ghost her like DH suggests, and make sure the police and the gym have a formal statement from you.

Edit: just saw your update and holy crap. Surely her fingerprints are on these items and not yours and they must have camera evidence it wasn’t you. You need legal help ASAP.

Post # 21
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312 posts
Helper bee

First I would make sure she didn’t steal anything from you…sorry you just never know :/ Since you say she’s your best friend I think telling her straight up that you want no part of this friendship if she’s going to continue being a kleptomaniac, she needs to get help. If she doesn’t agree then yes bee I think this friendship should be dropped, blocked, etc

Post # 22
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312 posts
Helper bee

Navygirl14 :  I just read this response and omg. To have your friend put you in this situation in the first place is beyond me! Good luck, bee. The cameras show HER stealing not you so hopefully you have and advantage.

Post # 23
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6541 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

Navygirl14 :  It’s very odd that within one day there’s a warrant for your arrest for stealing a bag from a gym, based on the word of someone who’s on camera with that bag. Hope you get it cleared up.

Post # 24
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Navygirl14 :  I just read your update and I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you, since you’re the victim and not the bad guy in this situation I really hope they believe you.

Can’t the witness confirm that you weren’t in the locker room while your friend was stealing the bag? I’m sure they should have you on cameras in a different area from your friend since you were in the sauna.

Post # 25
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511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Girl is prolly on drugs. Ask for a lawyer when you talk to the cops!

Post # 26
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272 posts
Helper bee

You probably should go down to the station and make a statement. Be 100% honest. If you have a family lawyer, now is the time to call. 

Post # 27
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712 posts
Busy bee

WHAT! I read this whole thing with my jaw literally dropped. The fact that she would throw you under the bus with the POLICE… that’s beyond inexcusable. Don’t ghost her, tell her exactly why you can’t be friends with her anymore. Tell her that she’s broken your trust, put you in trouble with the law, put you at risk financially, and seems not to have learned from what she’s done. Tell her she should seek professional help and that you’d rather not be in touch. Maybe this situation will make her realize how serious her issue is and be the ‘rock bottom’ she needs to turn herself around. 

Post # 28
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You need to cut this girl off completely and fast. Delete, unfriend, block! Cancel your cards and request new ones. Check your accounts for any unusual activity. Change your passwords to absolutely everything then have nothing more to do with her. 

Post # 29
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2264 posts
Buzzing bee

Navygirl14 :  I would check into a hotel if I could. One of those cheap, by the airport places. Get out before she tries to steal YOUR credit or debit card #s. All she needs to do is write down the info to be able to go on a shopping spree and obviously she has no qualms about stealing.

That or cancel your cards discreetly right now.

If that is too harsh just go home and write her a text or an email telling her why you can’t be her friend.

I had to break up with a friend because she was making me complicit in lies she was keeping for other people, and was engaging in morally wrong behavior. Really nasty person. She’s a “friend” so you owe her some kind of word, but I’d block her every which way to Sunday.

Post # 30
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718 posts
Busy bee

Regarding the UPDATE: Don’t go into the station voluntarily. Only go if they summon you, and then with a lawyer. You’re in the right, they’re just sorting the situation out so lay low. Speak to the detective on the case. Give a statement over the phone but don’t answer any questions without a lawyer. Good luck. 

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