How should I explain handfasting in my program? Or, how did you explain it?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

tanya4285:  I love that you are doing a handfasting! I’m trying to incorporate one into my Catholic ceremony… we’ll see how that goes.

There are some good resources on the Bee (

An example from one bee…


“These are the hands of your best friend, strong and full of love for you.

They are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.

These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years,

And with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.

These are the hands that will, countless times, wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will help you hold your family as one.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

And lastly; these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours,

Still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.”

Read more:


Good luck!

Post # 4
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016


How about having your officiant explain it as part of your ceremony? I was at a wedding once where the pastor talked about the history behind wedding traditions. It was really interesting!

Post # 6
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We did that reading, ut we didn’t do any type of “ceremony” with it, so we didn’t explain it. We just held hands and she read it.

Post # 7
3650 posts
Sugar bee

My daughter did it, at her wedding last year, and just wrote a line in her program that said “Handfasting;” she didn’t have enough room for a big explanation. The “Blessing of Hands,” was used word for word at a family friend’s wedding a few weeks before hers. All of the Christian guests knew what it was about (95+%). I basically re-wrote a few poems, that I found online, in my own words, and switched the lines around (the first few were directed at the newlyweds). Then the officiant asked for all couples persent to join hands, so that most of the lines were directed at all the guests. Everyone found it very touching, and a good way to include guests, in the ceremony.

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