Post # 1
Okay I have been worried for a while that I’d never get a ring from the man I’m with. We set our wedding date a couple months ago and I’ve still been waiting. I was expressing my worries and fears to my sister, who said he has a plan. She was like hinting details without giving me enough info to know what he was doing. She’d say things like he’s waiting for this thing to be able to propose and things like that. Saying she knows I’ll cry b/c when she heard the plan she wanted to cry.
Well a couple of days later we were talking about it and I was worrying that I won’t have the reaction I should have and that I may not like the ring he picks out. She ended up telling me he got the ring, she saw it & I’ll love it. I had absolutely no idea he had it already & he didn’t want me to know but I know she was just trying to calm my fears. How should I feel? In a way I’m angry because it ruined the surprise but on the other hand I feel relieved to know it’s def. coming.
I’m also worried about how to act surprised. I called my best friend (other then my sis) and she said she was mad at my sis for telling me because she knew and wanted to tell me but didn’t because he wanted it to be a surpirse. She also said not to worry about knowing because I don’t know when, where or how it’s going to happen so the surprise of all that will make me surprised enough he won’t know that I know.
I’m so confused! Someone please help!
Post # 3
@bnsp09: Don’t worry! I was sort of in the same position. We had the reception place booked a couple of months before I got the ring. As for the surprise? Amazingly, I was. Long story short. He had to pay for his car inspection, and it ended up being a lot cheaper than he thought. I told him to go to the place I’ve gone to for years. Where he had been going seemed to raise the price by a lot each time. It turned out that he paid less than $100, where he thought it was going to be a few hundred dollars. I kidded him and said he could put more money down on the ring then. Turns out he was close enough to paying it off that he did right after picking up the car.
We ended up going to the shore that same weekend, and he wanted to give me my Easter present. We ended up going to the bench where we had had one of our deep talks right before becoming a couple. Going to the bench was my idea. He had asked if I wanted to stay home or go into town. Even sitting on the bench I had no idea what was about to happen! It wasn’t until he was down on one knee that I figured everything out. So yes, it’s defintely possible to be surprised.
Post # 4
Thank you for sharing that! It helped a lot! I am so hoping to be surpirsed but I know it’s coming so everytime we go out I’m expecting it & get let down when it doesn’t happen! We had this perfectly romantic date last night & I really thought it was going to happen but didn’t. It was sad but okay because I know it’s coming!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry about it! Its clear your sister had good intentions as you were in agony in the waiting process, and if you feel relieved now that you know a ring is on the way, then it makes you feel better about yourself.
I’m sure the proposal will still be a surprise in the where/what/when, you just have validation that you now know it will happen some time soon (lucky you!!)
Post # 6
honestly, you’ve been buggging your sister so much I can’t blame her for spilling the beans. Take a deep breath and RELAX! It will happen when it happens. Don’t tell him you knew–and you will def be suprised if you just stop worrying about it and let it happen.
I knew that we had the ring, and even kind of guessed that that would be the day. but it was still a surprise seeing HOW he did it. Don’t worry about it–the less you think about it the more natural your response is going to be and you might even let yourself be surprised!
Post # 7
Thank you! I do feel lucky! I hope so! I can’t wait to see how it happens!
Post # 8
Talking to someone about your worries and fears I do not believe is bugging them about something I didn’t even know she knew! I knew she knew that there’s something he’s trying to get other then the ring and he’s waiting on it. that’s all I knew. I didn’t bug her about it at all.
Not thinking about it does not seem to be an option even more now that I know he has it.
But hopefully I’ll be surprised anyway