Post # 1
So, I told my bridesmaids it was up to them how they wear their hair. I’m pretty laid back and honestly it doesn’t matter to me whether they have it up or down. However, one of my bridesmaids decided to make herself a hairpiece from a flower that matches the her dress. It may sound cool, but the thing is pretty massive. I’m just wearing a thin headband with my hair up, and the other two girls are just getting a simple updo so it would definitely be distracting. How should I handle this?
Post # 3
@JacobsMama: Either tell her you don’t want her to wear it, or don’t worry about it.
Post # 4
@JacobsMama: I would just ask if she could just wear it for the reception. That seems fair enough since she didn’t know before she made it that you’d care but I agree it may look weird during the ceremony.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I agree about nicely asking her not to wear it for the ceremony if it is that overpowering.
Post # 6
I don’t see how it would take any attention off you so I would let her wear it. If you feel that strongly just kindly tell her you prefer she doesn’t. Or, get matching hair pieces for all the girls.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I generally err on the side of embracing a maid’s individuality. If it REALLY bothers you, I think PPs made a great suggestion re. asking her to save the hairpiece for the reception.
Post # 8
You could make it clear that when you said they could wear their hair any way they want to, you meant style wise — up, down, to the side — but that accessories such as the one she made are not a part of that.
That’s why I’m not a fan of letting people pick what they want to wear, especially without approval first, unless you really mean ‘anything’. It’s fine to give lots of options, but leaving it as open as “anything you want” gives them too much leeway.
I wouldn’t let her wear the flowers at all, not even to the reception.