Post # 1
Just for a change of perspective, I am a guest who was invited to a wedding and am a little confused by the RSVP card. It says "the favor of a reply is requested by [date]" and then the rest of the card is blank! My name isn’t even on it!
I will NOT be able to attend the wedding, and I feel like there’s some sort of traditional little note I’m supposed to write appologizing and indicating such, but I’m at a loss. The person who sent it to me tends to be pretty "by-the-book" and traditional about these sorts of things, which is why I’m even bothering to ask. Anyone know what the "correct" wording is supposed to be?
Post # 3
If she is super duper traditional- then I think (please correct me if I’m wrong") then you are supposed to handwrite on your stationary whether or not you are attending.
I;m very interested to hear what *really* is the protocol on this one
Post # 4
A few of my declines wrote a note saying they are sorry, but they will not be able to attend. Some of them continue into excuses, but I hate excuses. You don’t need to tell me WHY your not coming. If you can’t make it, you can’t make it. And don’t forget to put your name on it LOL
Also a few of the people who declined bought a wedding card and inserted money in it along with the RSVP card declining. Of course, that means my stamp for the RSVP was never used, but, oh well, they did send a gift!
Post # 5
Indeed, that is also my understanding. If there is no RSVP "card" included, you’re supposed to write a note yourself.
Post # 6
Well, according to Peggy Post:
“Just answer yes or no, short and sweet,” she said. “If you want to give a brief reason, fine.”
If it were me, I would write a short note like:
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Unfortunately I am unable to attend. I’ll be thinking of you and Bob, and wish you both the very best! Sincerely, Me
But that is just my $0.02. 🙂
Post # 7
Old school: A note on personalized stationery saying you won’t be able to make it and a congratulatory message. Not only will you make their day by being on time, but you’ll look good too.