Post # 1
It’s been at least a couple days since my last question! xD
First off I just want to thank everyone in the bee forums for all of your help, advice and caring support. Thank you.
I was watching Bridezillas last night and this bride was having a meltdown at a woman in her wedding party for suggesting to her how the wedding party should enter. Needless to say the bride did not take it well….It’s Bridezillas after all! On that same episode it showed another bride completely procrastinate her entire wedding until the finally week of the wedding! That drove me nuts, she had her bride’s maids and mother do EVERYTHING for her yet she thought she was doing all the work, WTF? She also didn’t have a clear idea of the “Day of the wedding” and this freaked me out!
I don’t want to procrastinate to the last minute so I thought I would get other bee’s opinions about this topic: How will your wedding party enter? Is there a right way? The Officiant is also our best man (and best friend!) so I was thinking that the officiant and groom walk into the ceremony room together before the guests sit down (is there a better way to do this? Is it approperiate for them to walk in after the guests have sat down? Is okay for them to come into their own music for fun?)
Then I was thinking of having my bride’s maids and groom’s men walk down the isle together. My M.O.H walks with the groom’s twin brother, then my second bride’s maid walk down the isle with her husband (and also groom’s man.) I have a question about this though….My M.O.H….Her husband is the officiant and Best man is it approperiate to have her walk down with someone else? Should I ask my M.O.H and Officiant/Best Man if they are comfortable with this?
Then I was thinking that after the wedding party was standing at the alter that my M.O.H would announce me into the room by calling my name out playfully and I would respond….”YEEEESSSS?!” and she would say, “Well come on sweetie, you’re getting married today!” I think this would be something funny to do to release some of my wedding day nerves, plus, I am just a goofy person like that.
And then I would walk down the isle with my mother who will be giving me away.
Does this make sense or is my wedding party order all out of wack?
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
You are very very close to the traditional Christian way of doing things. (in Jewish weddings usually the groom is “given away by his parents the same way the bride is) It’s usually groom and officiant enter from the side and stand up front; BM and GMs walk 2 by 2; MOH and BM; flower girl and ring bearer; bride and escort(s). You can also have the groom and GMs all enter from the side with the officiant, then BMs and MOH process alone. We are also having a very good friend marry us; this is roughly what we’re doing:(FI is Jewish, I am Christian, but there is parent drama on his side so we’re trying to avoid it)
-guests are seated
-MOG and SFOG enter and sit
-FOG enters and sits
-groom and officiant (close friend) enter from side
-BM and GM enter
-BM2 and GM 2 enter
-MOH, GM 3, and BM enter all together (lopsided bridal party)
(no flower girl or ring bearer)
-bride enters with both parents
In your case, I would talk to the officiant and MOH to see if they care. We are having people who are not “real-world” couples walk together and I don’t see anything wrong with it–we were not even going to ask them if they minded although now I am wondering if we should. Walking down the aisle with someone only makes you in a relationship with them if it’s after the wedding and you just exchanged rings. As long as everyone is friendly and cares about you two, I would imagine people will be cool with whatever. However, if your MOH is uncomfortable, just have them enter separately. No biggie.
Also personally I would not do the MOH calls you thing, only because I think people like grandparents wouldn’t get it and might be confused, and you don’t want anyone thinking that it might have been at all real. But I don’t know you or your family or friends, I would just advise thinking about your guest list and being sure that everyone will get it. We are doing a joke recessional instead, after we’ve clearly gone through with the hard part.
Post # 4
I think you can do it anyway you want to. The groom, best man and groomsman will enter from the side all at one time. Then it will be bridesmaid, bridesmaid, moh and flower girl/ring bearer, then me and my dad. On the way out the moh will walk with the best man and then bm1 with gm1 and bm2 and gm2. The flower girl and ring bearer are not walking out. I decided this all my own.
I wouldnt do the moh calling to you. I just think it would be werid and unsettling to have her call out to you during a wedding.