How should we do our first look?

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My partner and I are going to close our eyes and have the photographers walk us into the room where our rehearsal dinner is taking place (we’re spending the whole weekend on the property, and this room has gorgeous floor-to-ceiling windows). They’ll stand us in front of each other and help us join hands. Then, when they’re in place to take photos, they’ll tell us to open our eyes.

I didn’t like the idea of one of us walking up behind the other, especially since we’re a same sex couple. I try to avoid situations that other folks might interpret as one of us being the guy in the relationship. Also, there’s just some sort of unequal feeling to it that I didn’t love. I can’t really explain why.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

there was a beautiful courtyard in the rear of our venue.  DH stood out there and i walked up to him coming out the automatic sliding doors.  we didn’t do anything cutesy. but this worked for us.

our photographer caught DH giving me the up and down, once over.  it’s a cute picture.

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

My FI and I are down-to-earth, no frills kind of people, so our first look is going to reflect that. We’re doing a first look to calm our nerves and to get the formal photography out of the way so we can party with our friends the moment the ceremony is done. We’re having our first look at an old farmstead close to my parent’s home. I haven’t worked out the nitty-gritty, but I think it’ll just be me walking up to him and then having that all captured. The photographer we have picked is awesome, and I’m sure she’ll be able to capture the moment well.

I think you should do what feels right for you as a couple. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

 

mcp8011:  I agree, I always thought it was odd that the bride sees the groom first. He doesn’t get to see her face when she first sees him, so they don’t really share that moment.

 

We’re still deciding on whether to do a First Look or not, but if so, I want to see each other at the same time. We might do the same corner-of-the-building thing as the couple in OP’s link. My other top choice would be to walk into the prayer chapel (small room off the side of the sanctuary, with a stained glass window and 2 doors that don’t directly face each other) at the same time. Other ideas are to have us on either side of a door, or have us positioned back-to-back somewhere and then turn around. If we’re going to do it, I do want to create a real *moment* for it.

One odd thing that I’d want for our First Look: I want our bridal party and parents there to see it. 1. They’re joining us for our special day, and I want them included. 2. My mother would kill me if we did it without her. 3. Frankly, they’ll just be watching from the bushes anyways (like I did at my MOH’s wedding with her mother and the other bridesmaids) so let them be involved!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Our photographers picked where we did our first look and how, since we didn’t have any strong opinions on it and trusted that they’d know what looks best. I think the cutest one I’ve seen is when both the bride and groom are holding balloons in front of their face and they release at the same time. It just dpeneds on your theme. But I would definitely do outside, that place is gorgeous!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

PixieGoddess:  not odd at all, my folks will get a first look, then they and the bridal party will gather for my FH’s first look.  i want us all to share the moment.  then bridal party & family photos.  wedding, bride & groom photos then reception.  

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Mill:  Haha yes, that’s important. All I can say is delegate, delegate, delegate! People want to help! You could even do large fans, or cute signs.

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