Post # 1
Well, we finally decided that we are doing a first look!
So naturally I have now been trying to decide exactly HOW we want to do it! We are getting married at an old grist mill with beautiful outdoor and indoor spaces. So I’ve been trying to decided if we should do it outside or inside, and how… Most of what I see is just the bride walking up behind groom, taps him on the shoulder and he turns around. I guess I’m just feeling like I want something a little different and more creative. I’ve also seen where the couple is holding balloons and then releases them to finally see each other.
So what are everyone’s thoughts? Any creative first look ideas? Anyone want to share their creative first look? Any great first look pictures?
Also here is a link to a wedding that was at my venue. I think it shows a lot of the outdoor and indoor spaces well, just to help brainstorm!
Post # 2
My partner and I are going to close our eyes and have the photographers walk us into the room where our rehearsal dinner is taking place (we’re spending the whole weekend on the property, and this room has gorgeous floor-to-ceiling windows). They’ll stand us in front of each other and help us join hands. Then, when they’re in place to take photos, they’ll tell us to open our eyes.
I didn’t like the idea of one of us walking up behind the other, especially since we’re a same sex couple. I try to avoid situations that other folks might interpret as one of us being the guy in the relationship. Also, there’s just some sort of unequal feeling to it that I didn’t love. I can’t really explain why.
Post # 3
there was a beautiful courtyard in the rear of our venue. DH stood out there and i walked up to him coming out the automatic sliding doors. we didn’t do anything cutesy. but this worked for us.
our photographer caught DH giving me the up and down, once over. it’s a cute picture.
Post # 4
That sounds so sweet! I can already imagine the adorable pictures of you both holding hands with your eyes closed!
ajillity81: Sounds like it made for some adorable pictures!
Thanks for giving me some ideas to mull over!
Post # 5
My FI and I are down-to-earth, no frills kind of people, so our first look is going to reflect that. We’re doing a first look to calm our nerves and to get the formal photography out of the way so we can party with our friends the moment the ceremony is done. We’re having our first look at an old farmstead close to my parent’s home. I haven’t worked out the nitty-gritty, but I think it’ll just be me walking up to him and then having that all captured. The photographer we have picked is awesome, and I’m sure she’ll be able to capture the moment well.
I think you should do what feels right for you as a couple.
Post # 6
mcp8011: I agree, I always thought it was odd that the bride sees the groom first. He doesn’t get to see her face when she first sees him, so they don’t really share that moment.
We’re still deciding on whether to do a First Look or not, but if so, I want to see each other at the same time. We might do the same corner-of-the-building thing as the couple in OP’s link. My other top choice would be to walk into the prayer chapel (small room off the side of the sanctuary, with a stained glass window and 2 doors that don’t directly face each other) at the same time. Other ideas are to have us on either side of a door, or have us positioned back-to-back somewhere and then turn around. If we’re going to do it, I do want to create a real *moment* for it.
One odd thing that I’d want for our First Look: I want our bridal party and parents there to see it. 1. They’re joining us for our special day, and I want them included. 2. My mother would kill me if we did it without her. 3. Frankly, they’ll just be watching from the bushes anyways (like I did at my MOH’s wedding with her mother and the other bridesmaids) so let them be involved!
Post # 7
Our photographers picked where we did our first look and how, since we didn’t have any strong opinions on it and trusted that they’d know what looks best. I think the cutest one I’ve seen is when both the bride and groom are holding balloons in front of their face and they release at the same time. It just dpeneds on your theme. But I would definitely do outside, that place is gorgeous!
Post # 8
PixieGoddess: not odd at all, my folks will get a first look, then they and the bridal party will gather for my FH’s first look. i want us all to share the moment. then bridal party & family photos. wedding, bride & groom photos then reception.
Post # 9
PixieGoddess: I agree that I think it’s nice to share in the moment and see each other at the same time! It sounds like you have some wonderful options 🙂 It’s nice of you to include your family and bridal party too. One of my BM’s did that for her first look so it was sweet that we got to be there too.
TaraMay_: I’m really liking the ballon idea (which is why I was also leaning towards outside) but I’ll have to work out some logistics for that one (who’s picking up the balloons mostly lol)
Post # 10
Mill: Haha yes, that’s important. All I can say is delegate, delegate, delegate! People want to help! You could even do large fans, or cute signs.