Post # 1
My FI and I got engaged a few days ago and we have no idea what the next step is! We obviously want to enjoy our engagement for a little while and are planning an engagement party in a couple of months but have no idea how long wedding planning takes and how far in advance you need to do things.
We know we want to get married FEB-MAR 2016 so it’s a little while off but my mother is ready to go dress shopping (next weekend if she had her way). I think that’s a little too soon for that haha.
How long did everyone wait before they started wedding plans?
And what’s the first step?
Any and all advice is welcome!!
Thank you in advance 🙂
Post # 2
I have 8 months of planning time total, from engagement to wedding. From experience, i’d start at least a year out. Especially if you will have a big affair
Post # 3
Congratulations! Setting the date is probably the first step because it influences a lot of the other issues in planning. If you’re planning for 2016, I think you have a good amount of time, so there’s no need to rush. We had a general timeline for wedding planning before we even got engaged.
Post # 4
craigslistgirl: thanks! Yeah we had that rough timeline in place before the official engagement so now just need to fine tune it so we can start planning!
We will be buying a house late next year as well so we will have a lot going on. I feel like I’ll need to be extra organised!
Post # 5
OneDayMrsL: congrats!! First step is guest list!! Get a rough estimate of the amount pepole. Then look at a budget! We started planning before the engagement – but the next few days after is when we started writing stuff down!
A book you can order on amazon that’s pretty helpful is called the Busy Brides Bible – gives a nice breakdown on steps!
Post # 6
congrats! The first step is to exhale and take in this new part of life! Dont let anyone pressure you into starting to plan. The rule of thumb seems to be that planning a year in advance is perfect timing. If you start to do things too early you will find that you will change your mind about alot of things when you have to make an actual decision. Styles and trends will change so dont feel stuck to anything. Maybe you can start a pinterest page, you can casually pin things you like until you are closer to the time.
Post # 7
Enjoy for a little longer 🙂 We got a rough idea of what we wanted before becoming engaged but in the weeks just after we looked online and browsed a little more seriously. I wouldn’t go shopping or contacting vendors for a while but it doesnt hurt to discover what type of wedding you both want. The next steps are to make a guest list and find a budget. Then break that budget up into rough estimates for things such as dress , venue, ceremony, photographer etc… Definitely start a pinterest page- so many ideas! Discover how much things cost on average in your area and establish where you want to splurge and where you will hold back.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I’d try to figure out what you want now and just start researching. Figure out your budget, what things cost, general guest list/#. <br /><br />While it may seem far away, popular venues book up far in advance so if you have a specific month/date in mind you might lose it before you know it! My friend already has her venue, dress, and bridesmaid dresses picked out for her Sept 2016 wedding.
Post # 9
OneDayMrsL: umm, i waited about 36 hours and I couldn’t wait anymore. BUT we also only had a 14 month engagement
Post # 10
When FI proposed, I wanted to start planning right away.
BUT putting guest lists in his face two days later kind of kills the romance of the proposal.You have lots of time, so if you don’t already have a dream venue in mind, wait a few months and just enjoy the engagement!
Then, start slowly with a rough guest list (so you know what size venue to look for), and then look at venues.
I’d agree with pp — don’t purchase too many things just yet. By 2016, you could have some serious dress regeret, and once you start shopping for dresses it’s hard to stop.
Post # 11
OneDayMrsL: I got engaged a little more than a month ago and have already bought my dress… We aren’t getting married until fall 2016 ( I think) but I figure if I can knock a bunch of stuff off the list really early then it will be less stressful later on. Do what works for you!
From what I can tell a lot of vendors (in my area anyway) usually take bookings about a year to a year and a half in advance, but it wouldn’t hurt to call and ask if you have certain ‘must have vendors’ !
Post # 12
I got engaged the middle of February, and I started calling venues for availability aand pricing a couple weeks after that. We had our reception venue booked by the end of March, so a month and a half after we got engaged.
Start researching now, or as soon as you can. It’ll make decisions easier when you have to make them. We started with hotels for reception venues, and then worked on a guestimate of guests, as most places wanted a number so they could give you a price.
Post # 13
First off, congratulations!! Well being that my experience was different than many others here I’ll chime in. I started planning about 24 hours after the engagement haha. We planned for a certain month and then went for it. Nailing down a venue within 2 weeks of our engagement. That was the most important thing, our engagement will be 9 months long and venues were already booked for the month we were looking at (and the month before and after, too!).
People get on this stuff fast. It was like I was behind before we even started. One thing I wish I would have done is just called a bunch of vendors for prices. I didn’t do that until we were ready to hire. My budgeting was WAY off. I had no idea finding a DJ for under 1k was almost impossible, and a photographer under 1200 doesn’t seem to exist (at least in my area). I realize most don’t put pricing on their websites, but do the legwork and call around just so you can budget appropriately.
Post # 14
OneDayMrsL: Congratulations on your engagement! First step is planning the date haha and then finding venues… you need the venue picked out in order to know the number of people allowed to be invited which plays into how large a wedding party to have, what colour scheme will work with the venue that you choose, the floor plan, the meals, etc… after that, plan how you want it.
Piece of advice about the dress.. DO NOT buy before approximately 9 months before the wedding. My friend bought hers about a year and a half in advance and she just fit the dress then and swore she was going to lose weight but ended up gaining it. Also, I’ve been reading a lot of brides on here buying their dress and then continuing to look and findin another they love more… look but don’t buy haha
Post # 15
OneDayMrsL: Why the long engagement? Why not Feb/Mar of 2015? Just curious.