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    sminerva21    September 26, 2009   Chicago, IL/wedding in Upstate, NY

    I'm curious how soon after the actual wedding you can change your name. I'll be taking my fiance's name, and I'll admit, I'm pretty excited about it, and kind of what to do it within a week after getting back from our honeymoon, partially to make sure I actually get it done while all this wedding stuff is fresh in my mind. We're getting married in NY, but live in Illinois.

    I've tried to research this, but couldn't find any info. Any help would be appreciated!

     
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    Curlysue    June 5, 2009  

    I would contact the county in which you will be living. I'm guessing as soon as you sign that marriage license you are able to use that name! Well, not legally until you get your license, Social Security card, pay check, etc. But at the honeymoon location I WILL be using my new name (I'm excited too!). Good idea to get it changed as soon as possible though while it's in your mind. I plan to do that also. It might not hurt to get the necessary paperwork ready so all you have to do is drop it off. Make copies before you turn them in too! Or get copies if someone at the particular office has to sign off on them. Have you looked up websites that provide typical forms and stuff?

     
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    fanatic888    10/16/10   Cincinnati

    I think the marriage certificate is all you need to present to start using that new name.  You'll need to notify IRS, get a new SS card, etc.  Am I the only one out there sad about losing my name?  His surname is not bad but my name is very very unique.  I know everyone in this country with my last name or at least can figure out how we are related.  I've never wanted to hyphenate because I don't believe in doing anything half-way but I would love to have him take my name.  Does anyone do that?  He said he would if I bought him Chicago Cubs season tickets for life.  I can't afford that but I've thought about it......

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    You're going to have to wait as long as it takes for the marriage license to get filed.  Usually take a couple of weeks.  Maybe a bit more.  Once you have all your copies you can start standing in line and changing your name at the various departments.  All in all I've see it get done in 2 weeks, I've seen licenses not get filed right away resulting in a month or so wait. 

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Basically as soon as you get your license. Ours got mailed in right after our wedding and we left for our honeymoon for 8 days on a Monday. We got married on a Saturday. We got back that Monday night. Took it to the SS office Tuesday. By Wednesday I had a new SS card (basically the paperwork, not the official card, but they said it was my proof) and i had my new license. A month later I've gotten around to bank cards and stuff like that. But only cuz i was in the UK for a week for work.

     
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    MarzipanMrs.    June 2009   New Jersey

    I changed mine the week we got home from the honeymoon (2 weeks after the wedding.) I picked up our marriage cert. at the borough hall of the town we were married in, and then basically did it all in one day.  I used missnowmrs.com and it made it very easy.  I got my new drivers license that day. Within about three weeks I had my new SS card, passport, and credit cards.

     
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    sminerva21    September 26, 2009   Chicago, IL/wedding in Upstate, NY

    Ah, thank you, ladies! Very helpful!

    Fanatic888: If I had any attachment to my name, I wouldn't change it at all! My last name is my dad's, and I haven't spoken to him in over 15 years, and it has a negative connotation with me, so that's kind of why I'm so trigger happy :)

     

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    Since you're living in one state but marrying in another, I would wait for your marriage certificate to be mailed to you by the county in which you were married. This proves that you are legally married, that you wedding did occur and has now been recognized by the state.

    I was also married in a state where I didn't reside. Every state has such different paperwork you probably don't want to have to argue with people if you're trying to use documentation that didn't originate in a courthouse. 

    Request your marriage certificate ahead of time from the county where you're marrying, and it will be mailed to you within a few weeks of the wedding, at which point name changing can commence. For me, it took 3 weeks.

     
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    LittleBear    June 28, 2009   Chicago/beach wedding in NC

    be VERY careful about putting your new name on your luggage tags (the ones you fill out)! I thought it would be cute to put my new last name on the luggage tag the resort sent us. Well, our luggage was left behind in Miami (along with a few other couples from our resort. Apparently this is normal...???) and by the time it was taken off the plane and sitting in the airport in Antigua, the airline tag (with all the flight and destination info) was off. The people at the airport didn't know if it was coming of going and when the people from our resort called to check on it using my maiden name (since that was what my ticket was booked in), there was confusion. It took us calling and some guy there looking and saying "could it be kendra newlastname?" for us to get it! Thank goodness we actually did get it and just be careful! You will use your new last name for the rest of your life!

     
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    saraeliz    09/05/09   Raleigh, NC

    I'm planning on changing mine asap after the honeymoon. I live in NC and wedding is in NY so I'll just have to make sure I have the marriage certificate before I start the process.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    My license renews at the end of the year, so I'm going to wait til then to do it cuz I'm not giving the MVA anymore money than i have to!!  So that gives me just under 2 months after the wedding, but I'm planning on getting my stuff at work and school changed before that.  I would make sure you have all your ducks in a row so to speak before you go changing everything, every place is different and you don't want to run into anthing that could result in delays.  You have the whole rest of your life with your new nameHow soon after the wedding can you change your name? :  wedding Icon Biggrin

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    Like other people said, check with your state and county as it's different everywhere.  When we got our marriage license, as long as it had been signed by us and our officiant, we were good to go.  I changed my name at Social Security the day after we got back from our honeymoon.

     
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    sonipapdi    June 12 2009   Virginia

    I just want to throw this out there, you don't need to fill out any forms with the county. I learned this the hard way $39 later, that social security will do the name change for you for free. So make sure you go there first (after you get your marriage certificate). :)

     

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