Post # 1
My wedding is almost a year away and we just recenty got engaged but I would like to know, when is the time to invited someone to be in your bridal party? I want to try on dresses and start planning and stuff but I don’t want to do it alone since the Fiance is out of town for a while. I really don’t have any close friends that live close to mbe to me that I can ask but I really need to have at least one person by my side. There are a few girls I am considering just because I want to have bridesmaids. I am so up in the air with all this.
Post # 3
@realtreegal: Since you are a year out, I think now is a good time! I say go for it! 🙂
Post # 4
I asked my party about a month after we got engaged. I already had them all picked out… I had a looooooong time to think about it before getting engaged!
I ordered cards from etsy seller marrygrams that said “I couldn’t say I do without you” on the outside and “Will you be my bridesmaid?” (one maid of honor) on the inside. They were a beautiful shimmery cardstock and she has a nice choice of envelope colors. Everyone loved them.
Post # 5
I asked my bridesmaids within a month of getting engaged. I sent them little boxes with ring pops in order to pop the question. My good friend got engaged a year and a half before her wedding and was on the phone asking us as soon as he put the ring on her finger. I think that it’s totally acceptable to go ahead and ask your bridesmaids if you are positive on who you want to be involved.
My friend lives on the other side of the state and most of her bridesmaids live out of town. So, she scheduled a dress shopping day a couple months in advance so we could arrange to be there. I ended up doing the same thing and it was worth the wait to have my close friends with me when I said yes to the dress.
Post # 6
@realtreegal: i would say about 10 months to a year is perfect. i chose them at 16 months and it was a little too early, IMO.
Post # 7
You can go ahead and ask but be sure about it because you can’t take it back. It would suck to ask a girl and then realize you want someone else instead.
Post # 8
@realtreegal: 9-12 months before your wedding.
Post # 9
@realtreegal: My wedding is the day after yours and I asked right around the 1 year mark (I’ve been engaged since August). However, I had already taken one of them wedding dress shopping with me (the only one that lives where I do — actually, Arizona like you. I’m in Tucson). Most of them (3 out of 4) I had dropped hints to ahead of time and most of them (a different 3 out of 4) I had been in their weddings and am still close to them, so they probably expected it or at least thought it was likely. I asked the local one by bringing her cupcakes that said, one word on each cupcake, “HerName, will you be my bridesmaid?” and the other three by mailing them frosted sugar cookies that said the same thing as the cupcakes on two of the sets, and the other said “HerName, will you be my matron of honor” (I forgot the question mark, and she rearranged them to make it an order (you will be) instead of a question 🙂 ). Oh, and in my sister’s box I included cookies asking my niece to be my flower girl so that my brother-in-law would get some cookies too (my niece was too young to eat cookies).
Post # 10
Ask soon! If it is a year away this is the perfect time.
Post # 11
I already had mine picked out, and my friends were asking as soon as we told them we were engaged. I wanted to do something cute to ask them and ordered some things online. While I was waiting to get them in, Fiance let it slip in front of two friends because their bf & husband are his groomsmen, so he kind of ruined the surprise for me. I ended up just telling them that I wanted them to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man instead of asking them in the cutesy way I had planned. ugh…men!
I say go ahead, but ask people you really want there. Asking someone just because you want to have bridesmaids will be a recipe for drama if you aren’t really that close to them!
Post # 12
I announced mine a month after we got engaged! I wanted my girls to be involved in all of the planning and help me out as much as I can. I knew my sister was one and all of my best friends, so I didn’t need time to think it out! my FH didn’t let his groomsmen know until about 5 or 6 months out, only because he couldn’t narrow his list down! haha
Post # 13
You can ask as soon as you’re ready. But, I would caution you to do some serious thinking before you commit to any particular group of girls. Remember, being a bridesmaid is fun, but is a lot of work. You want a group of girls that can function together cohesively and plan together. Also, remember these are the people that will be around (hopefully) for many, many years and milestones to come. Don’t include the frenemy just because you were in her wedding.
Post # 14
We got engaged in November and I asked them in late January/early February. We are getting married in September. I think anything under a year is fine. I just wanted to make sure that Fiance had his all figured out because he was having trouble deciding. I would have hated to ask too many girls and then have Fiance say he didn’t ask someone.
Post # 15
@realtreegal: I haved already asked my Matron of Honor & Maid of Honor (yep two of them), and I will ask the other three girls after we find our venue & set our date, just to make sure that they can be up for it knowing the details.
Post # 16
Thanks so much for all the input!!! I do have two girls in mind and my FI’s oldest daughter will be 18 by the time of the wedding so I am asking her for sure to be one. I will have two jr. BM’s, My daughter that is 13 and my FI’s daughter that is 13, these two girls are TOTAL BFF’s lol 🙂 I would one more Bridesmaid or Best Man and a Maid/Matron of Honor. I am considering ask my sister but things have been so off and on with us and I am affraid she would say no. Not to be mean but because of other things thave have happened. Too personal to explain.
NOW….Ideas for how to ask? For the younger girls and for my older gals. It is a country style wedding (cowboy boots and all). What do y’all think?