Post # 1
I didn’t see another discussion post on this so here goes:
How soon is too soon to bust out the pet names (hun, babe, baby)?
I’ve had only 2 dates with a guy over the last 2 weeks…although there is constant texting and 2 or 3 long phone convos. He’s been texting stuff like “So how are you doing babe?” and I’m a little weired out using those so soon so I have no reciprocated yet.
Too soon? Red flag? Cute? Endearing? Stay away? No opinion? Haha
How soon did you and boyfriends start using them? Who said them first, you or him?
Post # 3
Babe is just a generic pet name, something that’s not specific to you. If it was something like “Snuggle Puppy” or something specific about you and stuff you like, then I would think it would be a little too soon.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
We’ve been dating for almost four years and are getting married next month, and we still don’t use pet names.
Well, unless you consider ‘sugartits’ as a pet name. And a sarcastic ‘dearest’ when I’m chastising him.
Post # 6
@sweetgirl1234: I think that seems a little soon, but my SO and I started calling each other “my dear” and “my love” and things like that after a couple months. Which my mother thought was way too soon, but we’re still happily together after 4 1/2 years. So.
I kind of agree with PP’s who said that “babe” is OK though, since it is generic and not specific to your personality/particular emotions. It would be weird if he was already calling you “love” and stuff like that.
That being said, I wouldn’t reciprocate with the pet names– of any variety– until I felt comfortable doing so.
Post # 7
To each their own! We use the generic “sweetheart” and “honey”, but I just can’t get into the stranger ones. Oh, and DH also calls me “dear” when he knows he screwed up, haha.
Post # 8
after about a year my SO and I witnessed two bunny rabbits (ok they were hares, alright, but bunny or hare, potato tomato!) cuddling up nearby our shared home. From then on we have called each other Bunny or anything silly in that direction. Before that there were no pet names. I say go for it. I think it helps some kind of intimacy along. Maybe not a super instrumental one, but there’s something special about knowing that we have our own little ‘bunny discourse’. If we get into fights, calling each other a special pet name (or feigning bunny ears above ones head) calms down just about any situation as we both go all tender…
Post # 9
I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, and I can’t remember a single time he has ever spoken to me and used my first name. He has always called me sweetie.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@sweetgirl1234: I don’t know, it freaks me out when people use “baby” or “baby” to just random people, or people they’ve only known for a little while. I always hated those words, and in past relationships they were never allowed to call me things like that, it always just had to be my name. I’m okay with my currently boyfriend calling me that, but it took a few months.
Post # 11
Too soon for cutesy names. I would get turned off by the cheesyness of it. The only name I call fi is booboo and that’s when I’m being annoying. He says “yes my baby” when I’m being annoing.
Post # 12
I think people should use them when they come naturally. I have never called any other boyfriend a pet name besides my husband because it never felt right to do so. One of my ex’s actually called me “cold” for not using them with him lol. When I started using them with my husband (bf at the time) I didn’t even really notice. It came so effortlessly, I couldn’t even tell you how soon into the relationship it began.
I don’t think you should take it as a red flag, just don’t reciprocate until you feel comfortable doing so, & if the time never feels right, then maybe you’ll know he’s not meant to be for you..
Post # 13
@sweetgirl1234: I put no opinion. If it feels weird to you, then maybe it is weird. I’ve never ever been a pet name user, never cared to be called one…then I realized one day out of the blue I started calling my SO sweetie. LOL. And he has special pet names for me to. When it’s right it doesn’t feel weird and won’t make you cringe or roll your eyes (like it totally used to do for me).
Also, maybe he’s overly affectionate and likes pet names…..but that doesn’t mean you have to use pet names with him too.
Post # 14
I personally can’t stand to be called “babe.” My SO and I started using pet names a couple of months into our relationship. I don’t use them as much as he does, and I really prefer them not be used in public.