Post # 1
we were engaged for 14 months, now married just over a month so 15 months with this ring i have now, i like my ring, wouldnt say i LOVE it but i chose it out of a small selection (we were living overseas in a tiny town at the time and werent much options)
id love an upgrade, not necessarily a “more expensive” ring, as my ring was expensive enough but just one that i love the style of more.
but my question is , is it too soon to ask my hubby for a ring upgrade? i hate the word “upgrade” like the ring i have now is a shitter or something…..
what are your thoughts??
my ring in the first pic, (with my wedding ring underneath which id use with my next ring)
and what id want in the second photo – or something similar along those lines…
Post # 3
@nearlymarriedlass: i would say you can upgrade any time you like.
Post # 4
I’d say any time as long as your husband is ok with it 🙂
Post # 5
@nearlymarriedlass: That depends entirely on your Darling Husband.
My Darling Husband wouldn’t care less and would be happy to accommodate my change however I do know some men that would be bothered by the idea. So again only you know how your Darling Husband would react, especially 15 months after the wedding.
Post # 6
@sheepandbear: i like this. my friend was horrified and said its way too soon and will hurt my fiancees feelings cos he paid for the ring i have now etc etc……
Post # 7
@nearlymarriedlass: I actually like your first better! But that being said, upgrade whenever you want! GO FOR IT!
Post # 8
If you have good communication going, I don’t think any time is a bad time to talk about it. If a new ring will make you happier with your stone, and you have the financial means, go for it! (Well, bring it up and make him feel involved too!)
Post # 9
Definately wait!!! That’s not too long you have had that set.
Post # 10
Well I guess there’s no right answer here except for what you both agree on.
Personally, I have already “upgraded” and we’ve only been engaged for 5 months, but there’s a good reason. The first ring (the one I wear now) was a cute and VERY affordable promise ring that I just kept wearing because I didn’t need (and we couldn’t afford) another ring. But, it’s an unusual shape that won’t pair with a band, so if I want to stack bands post-wedding it can’t be with this ring.
Now, I have had a 0.5 moissanite ring made, in silver, because it will pair well with a band, and plan to wear it like this post-wedding, with the original as a RHR.
Post # 11
Whenever you’d like! I’ve already upgraded and we’re not married yet. I had my moissy for about a year and a half and Fiance just bought me a pear shaped diamond last week. we knew we’d replace my original one eventually so it made sense to do it while getting a band so they went together and wouldn’t have to upgrade the band later too.
Post # 12
@nearlymarriedlass: I had the same question! I got engaged Oct 2012 and 4 months later I upgraded! My fiance spent a lot of time finding the best stone, but didn’t know too much about settings. He’s amazing, and said he wanted me to be completely happy. It’s so much more me! I say do it if your finances allow and if your husband supports it (otherwise he may hold a grudge!)
My before and after:
Post # 13
@ylapis: your new ring is my dream!!!!thats sorta what i want but i felt bad asking my hubby so soon after the wedding. esp cos i chose my current ring myself!
Post # 14
@nearlymarriedlass: 🙂 Thank you! Perhaps you can spin it as a 1 year anniversary present? I also felt really guilty about asking, especially just 4 months after he proposed. I didn’t call it an “upgrade” but more of a “changing the setting”. I don’t know where you purchased your rings from, but my jeweler let me trade in my old band and put the price of that band towards my new setting, which was the only way we could have afforded it. Perhaps check with your jeweler?
Post # 15
@ylapis: thats a really good idea except we were living in another country at the time, so wont be going back to the place we brought it for a long time – if ever! im the idiot i should have waited till we moved home or went to a big mall with lots of international jewellers stores but i was so excited and caught up in being engaged i didnt really think it all through.
Post # 16
@nearlymarriedlass: I’m not sure if this is possible, but perhaps trying to find local jewelers that will give credit for your old setting? They can still use the meta/stonesl for other rings I’d think.